My daughter is in first grade she did not put her name on one side of her paper because she had already written it on the other side. Her teacher took 10 points of for this is that appropriate?


Jodi - posted on 04/22/2014




Shawnn was asking whether you actually heard her say this or not. I am not sure why you are now commenting about "laying a hand" on your daughter. She didn't. You can't know the context with which she said it if you weren't there. I've said things like that in jest to students before. It was just for a laugh. Admittedly, kids your child's age don't get that sort of joke, so it was probably inappropriate, but I think you're over-reacting. Butt is hardly a curse word, it is a common word for backside in the English language.

Jodi - posted on 04/02/2014




This is possibly the teacher's way of teaching them how to put their names on things, so I guess it depends on what the paper was, and what the goals of the exercise were. Personally, I wouldn't take points off anything for putting a name in the incorrect space, but who knows? If it was a listening skills task, then yeah, she didn't listen.


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It's inappropriate either way you don't joke by threatening a child PERIOD!!!! I'm appalled that you would approve or even make excuses for such. You must be a teacher. I guarantee if it were your child the tables would be turned. Or do you even have children? This will be my final post to this site as it should be labeled Crazy people forum!!!!

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In any instance it's NOT acceptable for her to speak like this to our children. She has 9 students for Goodness sake!! I have known and still know a lot of exceptional teachers which I have shown some of the papers to and they are in aww of her teaching. I have spoke with the principle. I am here to protect my child and that is exactly what I intend to do physical and mentally she is 7 and NO one better ever lay a hand on my child if she needs to be disciplined that's my job. I promise you she is a very well behaved and respectful child.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 04/17/2014




If the teacher told them to put their names in a specific spot on the paper, and your daughter chose not to change where she'd written her name, she chose not to follow the directions given by the teacher.

And, yes, that is a 'listening skill'. Your daughter was given a direction and chose not to follow it. You want her to not be counted off for that? Sorry, but...that's not how it goes. She needs to learn to follow the directions given.

As far as the math example you gave, I'd have argued that as well, unless the child's answer was incorrect, in which case perhaps she should have used blocks.

As far as the 'bust them till their butts are raw" statement: DID YOU WITNESS that statement being made? Unless you did, you aren't sure of what happened in that instance, and your first step should be to voice a concern to the teacher. Not an accusation, but a concern.

Liz - posted on 04/17/2014




Honestly if you have any concerns about whether teaching of your daughter is appropriate or not, the best place to take it up in order to get any kind of help or result is the school, either with the teacher concerned or with their principal.

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It wasn't a listening skill. She is not consistent with her teaching. She also gave them a math paper that read " use the blocks to determine your answer if you choose" she chose not to. She took points off for that also. When I pointed it out she said well I guess I could change her grade. This same teacher told her class room that if they continued to talk she was going to bust them until thier butts were raw! My daughter is not aloud to say butt. We say hiney or popo I am trying to raise her to be a lady and I pay for Christian schooling this seems a little much to me!

Michelle - posted on 04/03/2014




You would be better off asking the teacher. Like Jodi said, it could have been a listening activity and they were told to put it on both sides and she didn't.

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