My daughter is mixing with the wrong crowd

Emily - posted on 12/12/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )




I think my 14 year old daughter is mixing with the wrong crowd. Like one of my friends who is also a single mom said she saw her smoking and I believe her boyfried in two years older than her! What should I do?


Ev - posted on 12/12/2013




I have to agree with Shawnn on this one. I have raised a daughter and at 14 she was not running around when she wanted and felt like it and I knew who her friends were and where she went and what she was doing. Even two years later at 16 I knew her boyfriend and had met his parents and made sure of what was what. She did not go out with him on a date unless the parents of either of them could take them and pick them up (neither had no driver's license yet and car to drive and not because we did not want them to have it. Insurance on another car alone for a teen is expensive.) She even after she got into college she at my request when at home was to tell me who she was with, what time she was coming home and if she was coming home and where they were going for sake of safety. Until she turned 21 years old, she actually kept asking my permission to do things and I had to remind her that I just wanted to know in case she needed me to come get her or if something went crazy. I am proud to say that she is a mother of her own child and married now. She would not have gotten here if it were not for my persistence in knowing about her life in high school.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 12/12/2013




Have a talk with her. Ask her straight up if she's smoking (although if she is, you'd be able to smell it, or the excessive fragrance layering to cover up the smoke, which results in a stale fragrance that smells like a jacket that was left in a bar...)

Tell her that you've been hearing things that have bothered you, and you'd like her to be truthful with you about her activities.

When my kids were that age, they didn't go ANYWHERE without me having met everyone they'd be hanging with, and knowing most of their parents. I have to ask you, how is she getting to hang out with people that you don't know? How do you not know her boyfriend? You'd know, just by looking if he was a couple years older than your 14 yo...

Time to tighten up those reins, mom. You still have 3.5 years or so before she's an adult...


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