My daughter is turning 15 in a few days and had asked me if it were okay she date a 17 year old. I suspect they are good friends because he has been giving my daughter flowers a couple of times... I'm not comfortable with this, I feel he should date girls of his own age. Any ideas on how I can persuade her from making this decision but having it be her own conclusion?


Gabriel - posted on 08/08/2013




This is a tough one. I have two girls, ages 20 & 24 so I have been there. I too did date a guy a couple years older than myself in High School and we ended up getting married (my girl's father). So it's certainly not unheard of but there is a big difference between those two ages. Not knowing anything about this 17 yr old boy I would assume he is probably into being sexually active if he hasn't already. If you do allow your daughter to date him, I would encourage you to tell her what he might have in mind and ask her how she feels she will handle it. Or you could just say no, you're too young to date him and leave it at that. But if you do allow it, educate her the best you can and hope she makes the right decisions for herself. Good Luck! I often wish the answers to raising kids were easier ;-)


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Misty - posted on 08/08/2013




It seems odd because he is 17 but it is not abnormal because boys maturity level is different than girls. A 32 year old man is not seen as strange to date a 30 year old woman. The reason you are concerned is if he will take advantage of her youth and inexperience. The best thing you can do is honestly trust your daughter, set strong rules, pay attention to how they act around each other, be supportive, and invite him around for supervised dating at first. If you tell her no then be prepared that it might happen behind your back and without your knowledge. As parents we believe our children would never go behind our backs but we also need to have our eyes wide open because teenagers don't always make the best decisions and we need to be there to guide them but also let them make mistakes in an environment where they feel comfortable coming to us for advice

~♥Little Miss - posted on 08/08/2013




Nope. Not to old IMO. I was 17 dating a 15 year old. We dated for 2 years, and were very serious. We probably would have gotten married, but circumstances beyond my control lead me to moving once I finished high school.

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