My daughter refuses to go over my boyfriend's house cause of his son

Adelaide - posted on 09/07/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )




I've been dating a really generous and kind single father of 2 for about 9 months now, we do not live together. My daughter and his oldest son are 1 year apart and have spent allot of time together, they fight like brother and sister now. His son was abused by his mother's boyfriend, both are no longer in his life and he has shown some aggression towards me over the last couple months, I've always been aware of his situation, so I never said anything to my boyfriend cause I know it's not his fault.
I have been breaking up many more fights between them, like bad ones and as much as I try to watch them constantly, I don't see everything. Now she tells me he has hit her and has been very mean to her and now she refuses to go to their house.
I have tried to get her over there to get an apology from him, I stopped talking about it hoping it would just blow over, neither worked and now I don't know what to do?
My daughter's father is an alcoholic, who would verbally abuse me and we had some big fights, I know that affected her, that's why I got out of there and I'm pretty sure that has something to do with what's going on now.
My daughter is my life, I'm not going to force her to go somewhere she obviously doesn't want to go, just wondering if anyone has any advice for me? please?


Dove - posted on 09/07/2014




Your boyfriend needs to get his son the help he needs and not allow his son to abuse your daughter.. or you need to keep them apart (in which case your relationship w/ your boyfriend will not work). She has a right to feel safe (as you know since you left her father). Perhaps some counseling for your daughter in regards to what she witnessed between you and her father would be in order as well.


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