My daughter's father is in prison and now her step-mom is trying to fight for rights. Can this happen? She has nothing to say I'm a bad mother I just need some help other than from my lawyer.

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TERESA - posted on 09/14/2011




ok i am a step-mother tryin 2 fight for custody of my husbands daughter. I have had her since the day she came out the hospital the real mother gave her away bc she didnt want her.. Now 5yrs later she wants 2 collect benefits an is now sayin she wants 2 see her wat do i do now.. HELP PLEASE..

Jamie - posted on 03/24/2009




thats unbelievable, she has no rights what so ever, dont worry she hasnt got a leg to stand on

Jessica - posted on 03/23/2009




Thank you everyone for posting some very moving comments. In the back of my head I think that she wont get any rights either, but I'm still waiting to talk to my attorney b/c I think this is a bunch of BS. Just to make some things clear I have made another post on here when her dad first went to prison because I was at my wits end about how to tell or even deal with it all myself. He went for distributing, posessing, and downloading child porn (10 yrs). I am married to another man and haven't been with her daughters dad since 3 months b4 she was born. I am in the military and was deployed for 18 months and they got rights of dakota since at the time I couldn't prove him unfit. Everything came out during my deployment and I was rushed home at the end cause that's when I found out. I'm a good mother. We have our own house. We support her 100% and no one else does. Her step-mom is costing me attorney fees and court costs and it makes me mad b/c I'm told she wont get anything.....then why do I have to be there and waste our money?? That's why I needed some support and some uplifting comments. So thank you everyone and I'm sorry but happy for you Martha!

MarthaLynn - posted on 03/22/2009




Well, I'm the step-mother.  I'm not trying to take my step-daughter away from her mother, but my daughter's father is also in prison and he has a daughter from his first marriage.  The thought of challenging for any kind of rights is ludicrous!  You have nothing to worry about.  Trust me.  I went through hell trying to get away from that man!  He now has no rights and I have sole custody.  Don't let it keep you up at night, tho I know it's upsetting.  I know how it feels to have someone try to take your child and it is scary!  Just know that you have no reason to worry.

Mel - posted on 03/21/2009




she has no rights she is not the mother you are so dont stress she cant take your child unless you have done something seriously wrong. dont worry about her.

Shelly - posted on 03/21/2009





  Take a deep breath...She has no rights to your daughter.  Zero zip, nada.  And depending on what her father is in prison for he may not have rights either!!!  She does not have a legal leg to stand on.   I had to make sure you wasn't in CA they make up the laws as they go.  But you still live in part of the country were family means some thing!!!  I will keep you in my prayers

Krysti - posted on 03/21/2009




If your not a bad mom and your home is stable dont worry about it. Why would a judge take a child from its biological mother and give custody to a virtual stranger who dates a convict?

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Your daughters step mother has no rights to your daughter at all. I am not sure why she would even try because your daughters father is the only one other than you and the very few rights of the grand parents (a few hours once a month or something if they fought for it). You have nothing to worry about.

Danielle - posted on 03/21/2009




Step-moms have no legal rights to your child. her father will have issues getting his rights, even after being released. As of now, he also has no rights to her. Don't worry... all will be well! Good luck!

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Jasmine is right, step mom has no rights.  Just like how Grandparents don't either.  Sounds like she is just trying to find a way to talk sh*t about you in a public forum (like a court room).  She has no ground to stand on.  Plus, look at it like this....even if you were a horrible mother (which I'm sure you're not) if the state took your daughter from you, they certainly aren't going to give her to the wife of a man who is in prison.....she's not related and has zero rights to your daughter.  Sorry you're going thru this.  I know it must be stressful as hell.  Just keep doing what you're doing and raising a beautiful daughter.  P.S.  Cute kitten too lol (I have 4).

Jolene - posted on 03/21/2009




Omg! Well she shouldn't have any legal rights, she is not the mother...only a step mom. And considering the father is in prison, I'm pretty sure a court would see no reason for this woman to have any rights to your daughter!

Jasmine - posted on 03/21/2009




well she has no rights she is not the mother and im sure your not gonna have ANY reason to lose your daughter just on your own. Her opinion means nothing. I'm sure you'll be fine.

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