My daughter takes things from my room and hides them from me.

Pamela - posted on 08/26/2012 ( 6 moms have responded )




I don't know why but my daughter 11years old takes things from my bedroom and hides them. I ask her if she took anything from my room and she'll say No I didn't why do you ask me all the time? Well I tell her I find my things in your room that's why.

So now she doesn't accually take things she hides the things I like in my own room. I've tried to catch her but she is so sly and quite about it. I never know what will go missing. She says things like you probable put it somewhere else. Sure enough I find things in my shoes, pockets, under the sink ect...But she is telling me the truth in her mind she did not take it, she moved it. She won't tell me if she's been moving things around either. Can someone tell me how to stop this? How can I catch her? I need proof for pudding.This is driving me crazy.


Jodi - posted on 08/26/2012




Why do you need proof? You seem to know she is doing it. She knows you know she does it. Just tell her it needs to stop and that she shouldn't be in you room or touching your things. If it continues, I think I'd be collecting HER things, and she probably wouldn't get them back...... I'd definitely clean her stuff out of her room and she only gets her things back when she learns to respect things that belong to others.


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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 09/04/2012




Why did you not set boundaries prior to this? My room is MY ROOM. The kids aren't allowed in without permission, and if we leave the house, the door to our room is locked. (well, for more than one reason...we also put the garbage can in there so that dogs can't get into it if we're out).

Those boundaries have been in place ever since the kids were old enough to understand "No".

They are more than welcome to enter if they have my permission, and we do often have movie nights on the big bed (well, not so often anymore, now that the kids are older). Set some boundaries. Lock your door when you're not in your room. Teach her some respect for personal space and property now, or you'll have bigger problems on your hands later.

And, while you're at it, look into why she's pulling this? What is her motive? Attention?

Gale - posted on 09/04/2012




You know some parents will take their child door off and for a few days to teach respect for other people privacy, two wrongs will teach her that it okay, why should you fork out more money? Just say until you respect my things you won't have a door

Kelina - posted on 09/03/2012




you could try a nanny cam, one of the cameras in a teddy or something. you can also try one of the motion sensors that dings when you go through a door.

Pamela - posted on 09/02/2012




You know your right. I'm gonna take her things and hide them too. Guess where is hides my things? In my own room. I have to look everywhere. My room is so clean and organized now I can tell if she has been in there. She blames her brother, that's why I need to catch her. I took her favorite braclet and hid it in her closet for a month and then I put it back. Ohh mean mommy! I can't imagine what she thought when it reapeared. LOL.

I do have a lock on the door, but sometimes I am just out of it for a little while and in she go's. I need some type of thing that makes noise if she goes in the door. Anyone know where I can find something like that? I've changed the lock twice because they find my hiden emergency key. Any sugestion on where to hide it so I can get to it easily and not be noticed getting out and they don't accidentally find it?

Thanks, Pam

excuse my spelling I'm dumb with words. Where is the spell check?

Kelina - posted on 08/26/2012




try putting a lock on your door. otherwise I like Jodi's idea, do it right back a few times. just don't start a war.

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