My daughter won't leave her bedroom

Bee - posted on 11/22/2015 ( 3 moms have responded )




My daughter is 25 and will not leave her bedroom. Instead she plays video games day and night. She won't shower, or take care of her personal hygiene. I don't believe in kicking her out, because I wasn't raised that way. I know she needs to see a shrink, but she refuses to go. Any tips?


Jodi - posted on 11/22/2015




Does she pay rent? Is she contributing to the power bill that is used for these electronics? Is she contributing to the food she is consuming? And where does she each her meals? In her room? In which case, you need to stop enabling the behaviour. Disconnect the power to her room. Stop cooking her meals. Stop allowing all of this to happen. She will have to come out of her room eventually to seek help because she's going to need a JOB to start paying her way around the house. But as long as you enable this, she will continue to do it.


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Ev - posted on 11/22/2015




I have to agree with Michelle. Its your house and if she wants to stay you need to set her accountable for her actions. Besides what Michelle has suggested come up with a contract with stated rules for living at home including getting a job, doing basic hygiene and a time frame for it. If she does not do so list the date she has to leave the house. She is 25 years old! She is not a child! My own daughter is working, has some college under the belt, married with 2 kids, and helps out her inlaws. There is no reason for your daughter to be like that. The only reason she is like this is because you allowed this to happen.

Michelle - posted on 11/22/2015




If you won't take steps to get her out then make it unbearable to stay in her room. Unless she has paid for all the electronics in her room take them away. You only have to provide the basics if she doesn't contribute so change the password on the internet.
She's an adult and can make her own choices but you can also chose what you want to provide her.

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