My duaghter has started asking for a sibling and I feel guilty that I've never given her one.....she is my only child, should i have another just so she has someone to hang out with even though the age gap would be 8 years?


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Tee - posted on 04/30/2012




If YOU really want another child go for it. My children are all spaced and get along fine. I do have to remind the oldest that he is not his sisters father and even with the age difference the younger 2 are extremely close. The boys are 19 and 7 and their little sister is 2.

Now you won't have as much energy at times but you learn to work through it.

Michelle - posted on 04/30/2012




My son was the same way and he got told over and over again that no mommy was done and was having no more kids. He got over it and stopped asking by the time he was 8 and then surprise mommy got pregnant totally not planned I found out when they were running test for me to get the ok to have my tubes tied when we found out. So my children are 8 years apart and let me tell you, it is like starting all over again except I am older have less patience and he wants absolutely nothing to do with his little sister because she is a pain and won't leave his stuff alone. Only have another child if it is you longing to have one as though I love my daughter my husband and I had it made every other weekend we were child free as my son would go see his bio dad and now the freedom is gone and will be for quite some time. Our plans of retiring and possibly traveling are postponed as well as we will both be in our later 50's when my daughter graduates high school. A child brings lots of wonderful things to a family and we love both of ours dearly but honestly be sure it is what you want and don't do it for any other reason.

Bonnie - posted on 04/30/2012




I wouldn't have another child just for that reason. You have to want another child yourself, plus the time, space, and energy to care for another one.

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