My fiance is denying my pregnancy now

Odile - posted on 08/22/2013 ( 1 mom has responded )





You all probably heard the same kind of story before but my situation is slighlty different. I met this men 3 months ago and he is well known in the community where I reside. We felt in love instantly, make love and he engaged me and we plan to marry on November 2013. Now I announced him that I was 2 weeks pregnant on June and he was so happy, he will be cooking and taking good care of myself. He told me thay he was glad that I was pregnant because none of his previous ex girlfriends were able to get pregnant. On July 2013, he found that his mother passed away and we started to think how we will raise money for his mother's funeral as her body is in Africa. One night he told me that he tried to get a loan of $15000 but the bank will only accept to give him a loan if he has a co-signer so he asked me to be a co signer for the loan. I politely told him that I don't want to take this risk because anything can happenin life and I don't want to be in a situation where we are not able to pay for the loan and I have a baby who needs to be taking care of. He was insisting that he will pay and I still refused to do it. So he later said that I don't trust him. This has caused an argument heeft home. He will only come back home to pick up few clothes and he will refuses to talk to me. I contacted his closed friends and my family for advice but they all think I acted well. One Sunday, I presented myself at his workplace hoping to talk to him but his colleague told me that he was supposed to work this afternoon but has not showed up to work for 2 days. My intuition was directing me to go and visit his old place. When I arrived in rhe parking lot, I saw him kissing and touching a girl breast. I met this girl at a wedding in the end of July 2013 and we all went to eat at the restaurant with other friends. I was devastated. When he saw me, he told me that that I should not act this way everytime I see him with a girl. I told him that I have beeing crying for 6 days and you know that I am inly 7 weeks pregnant and at risk for miscarriage and other complications. He replied that how am I even sure that you are pregnant. Then asked me how am I even sure that I am the father of this baby. I was shocked. Because I come from a african culture, being a single mom is a stigma. I needed a prove to show to my family that I was not at fault. Just victim of falling in love. I followed him to his appartmemt and was trying to prevent him of entering his place. He called the police on me and I filmed everything on camera. He missed the first ultrasound appointment and I will be very surprised that he will be attending the second ultrasound appointmemt. Still I email a picture of the fetus so far and I sent him an email and text message reminding him of the 2 nd ultrasound appointment. Now, I am asking myself when I gave birth and the genetic determines that he is the father, I dont want him to go to court and because I am making more money than him, he could ask custody of the child and even go asked the court that I give him money in case I am still making more than him in a year. Please I need support and suggestion


Michelle - posted on 08/22/2013




How did you know when you were only 2 weeks pregnant?!?!?!? Most people are at least 4 weeks when they find out.

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