My girls father passed away and the ex-in-laws won't give up estate!

Lori - posted on 07/17/2013 ( 4 moms have responded )




Not sure where to post this but maybe someone has some insight. My daughters 14 & 18 lost their father (my ex-husband) this past February. He did not have a will and was not remarried but lived with his girlfriend of a couple years. I understand that his estate would belong to the girls. The ex-in-laws have acknowledged this, however, they have not been willing to let the girls have what they are asking for. To further complicate things we live 2000 miles apart so can't just run over and gather the items. The girls were able to go through his belongings when we traveled to the memorial services and picked up some things they could take back with them with a promise from the relatives they would send some stuff by mail. When that did not happen my older daughter drove the distance to pick up some larger items but was not received well and ended up leaving with less then she had intended. I have had a heart to heart with the girls that they needed to just send a list of the items they felt they could not live without and be done so everyone could just move on. They reluctantly agreed, however, the list (very small list) they sent was firmly rejected with a terrible note to the girls that their “father would be ashamed of them”. Of course this broke their hearts! At this point, I don’t know what to do other than get a lawyer involved. It seems so petty because what they are asking for isn’t anything with huge monetary value but sentimental value and they could realistically ask for much much more. How do I get these people to acquiesce to the girls so we can move on??


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Jodi - posted on 07/17/2013




I'd say just get a lawyer's letter. It may not go any further than that.

Crystal - posted on 07/17/2013




I would think that everything he owns would go to next of kin which is your daughters. but I would recommend getting a lawyer. and saving the letter they sent them and the letter they sent your daughters. good luck I hope everything goes your daughters ways.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 07/17/2013




Get a lawyer involved. Period. There is no way around it. Good luck! And I am so sorry that your ex passed away. How difficult for your children.

Dana - posted on 07/17/2013




I think that is terrible for the in-laws to treat the girls like that. However with no will I really think you need to get a lawyer, sooner than later. Normally this will go into probate then and woudl a court not decide who gets everything? I think you need to get a lawyer to protect anything the girls are entitled too.

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