My husband's friend called my 8 month old a bitch.

Arlene - posted on 01/28/2015 ( 6 moms have responded )




Recently, while my daughter and I were in the kitchen eating lunch, our roommate, which is also a friend of my husband's came downstairs and greeted us with "Whats up Biotches." and I responded with, "Biotches?" and his last response before he walked out the door was "Yeah, Bitch one ( pointing at me) and Bitch two (pointing at my 8 month old)". I told my husband what happened later that night and he said that Cody (the friend) didn't really mean it the way I took it, that it was just his way of being funny. Am I wrong for being extremely offended and upset by this?? I could care less that he called me a bitch, but for a man who is about to have a baby himself, how could he say something like that to my daughter? If I could get some much needed advice, it would be very much appreciated.. Thank you.


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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 01/29/2015




Considering that slang is supposedly "acceptable use"...yeah, right...and pretty much everyone is using it now...I'd say he probably didn't mean that you're bitches, but used the current 'familiar' greeting.

Not polite, nor acceptable in my book, and i'd have given him the 'mom' look. Once I could pull him aside, I'd tell him that his language is inappropriate and he needs to modify it in front of the baby. Then start a cuss jar, and make him contribute when he lapses.

Raye - posted on 01/29/2015




I agree with the others... some idiot people (men and women) think that bitch (pronounced as bee-aaatch) is an acceptable term for any female. Yes, you should just say that you don't think it's appropriate to use that language when referring to, or in front of, a child.

Arlene - posted on 01/29/2015




Thanks ladies, I'm glad I didn't do anything outrageous. lol Although, I have asked him many times to not cuss around her, I just don't think he thinks it's a big deal and does it anyways. And about me being more offended about him calling her that word than me is because she's my babygirl, and I don't want anyone calling her that.. But I agree with you guys. Thank you so much.. Next time though, should I just say that I'd appreciate it if he didn't use that language around us?

Michelle - posted on 01/29/2015




I'm with the other ladies, Why would you not be offended that he called you the same when it was intended in the same way?
Let him know that you don't want him saying things like that around your child, easy.

Gena - posted on 01/28/2015




I agree with Jodi. I would also tell him that you dont want your daughter to hear those kind of words. But i also dont think he ment it in a rude way. In the country where i live,i have heard teenagers asking eatch other hey biatches whats up..i find it silly..but apparently its not insulting anybody. But with a baby around a Hey whats up would be enough.

Jodi - posted on 01/28/2015




Your husband is right, he didn't mean it the way you took it, but it is still impolite. keep in mind he called you a bitch too. He didn't mean it that way. I think you need to back down a bit from your outrage and let him know that you actually don't particularly like that he uses that term to refer to yourself and your daughter and if he could please refrain from doing so, you would be appreciative. I'm not sure of your cultural background, but for some, "biatches" or "biotches" could be considered a term of endearment, as tacky as it is.

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