My husband thinks I'm lazy

Theresa - posted on 04/18/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )




I am a SAHM to an almost 3 year old boy. I take care of the house, run errands, groceries, clean, cook, etc. Our son is registered in activities, which I run around to as well. My husband has been super moody lately & when I asked him if he wanted to come to an Easter even with us, his response was "Not with you I don't". I asked him what the problem was. Apparently I don't do enough at home. I do the basics, but I never go above or beyond, according to him. And I never listen... I don't cut his chicken properly before cooking. I don't cut his bread the way he likes it. I don't put his pants in the right spot. I don't hang his shirts properly and I don't clean enough. He then went on to say that if he works full time out of the house, then I should be putting in equal hours at home. Does he forget that once he clocks out at work, he doesn't have to think about it until the next day? Me, no, I'm on the clock 24-7. When he's home on days off, I'll admit that if he's laying around doing nothing then I tend to as well. Toward the end of the conversation, he told me, he would like for me to get a full time job & put our son in childcare. Who's going to make his breakfast then? His lunch? Supper? Who's going to do the errands? Groceries? Are we too different? We just celebrated our 7th year anniversary a few days ago!

Honestly, at first I was full of rage. Now? Yeah I can get a job and while I'm at it, I can save up for a place of my own!

Has anyone gone thru this? Are we just not compatible?


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Jodi - posted on 04/19/2014




Do exactly as he says. Clock on and clock off as he expects you to and work equal hours during the day. Then ask him whose cooking dinner and taking care of the kids outside those work hours because you clocked off at the same time he did. That should be an interesting conversation.

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