My husbands best friend is over ALOT

Maria - posted on 08/29/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )




My husband and I have been married a little over a year. My husband met his best friend about the time we got married. Kenny (husbands friend) and hub have been pretty much inseparable ever since. He never used to come over so much but now it seems like its getting worse. On average I would say he comes over about 2-3 times a week. Both of them LOVE football and Xbox so you can imagine why they like each others company. I work a 3 pm - 11 pm shift and hub works 11 am - 7 pm shift so does Kenny. So quite often they hang out at our house and he leaves about the time I get home. We have gotten in multiple arguements because I don't like the fact that's he's over so much, especially on weekends when we both have it off. It's hard to tell him not to come over on Sundays because its a FOOTBALL DAY...... It's annoying to me but my hub insists and wont give up. Am I wrong to feel this way? Should I just let it go? He says I'm being controlling but I feel like its not fair. HELP, this is ruining our relationship.


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I agree with Amy. If he is leaving when you get home, and the kids are cared for, I wouldn't see a problem.

As for the Sunday thing... Football season is short, so I'd let him have those as long as you reserve one day a week for the two of you. Invite a girlfriend or two over during the game to hang out and chat with you--that's what I do. Outside of Football season, I don't mind a friend coming over as long as we don't have plans. If we don't have much going on, I hubby has a friend over while I go to the spa or "fun shopping" (the kind of shopping husband hates).

Amy - posted on 08/29/2013




Honestly if he's leaving when you get home as long as the kids are cared for I don't think it's that big of a deal. I would say to hubby that Saturday needs to be family day and family only. Since Football season isn't too too long I would let him have Sunday after 3 or 4 to do what he wants. But that's just me. Your husband should be more willing to compromise with you though.

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