My husbands past is haunting me

Maha - posted on 07/08/2014 ( 1 mom has responded )




A few days ago i was going through my husband's email on our ipad.. and i found out his old love emails for a girl whom i dont know about.. but i know that she is still on my husband's facebook account.. My husband loves me alot and im sure he has ended it all .. but it has ruined my mental peace.. im not even sure about him scared to talk about it with him because im unaware of how he will respond..


Jodi - posted on 07/08/2014




Here's the thing about our partners. Unless we met them when we were all teenagers, they, and we, are going to have a past. You can't erase that, and you each need to have respect for that. My husband has two failed relationships that both resulted in children. I was previously married too, and am still friends with people I had relationships with in the past. We were in our 30s when we met. To expect that either of us had no baggage is ridiculous. We both actually had to just accept it, be adults about it and move forward.

When it comes down to it, he doesn't own this, you do. It appears there are some insecurities if your "mental peace" is being ruined by the idea he had a past relationship and still remains friends with her. You need to be confident that he married you. By all means, you can talk to him and let him know that you aren't comfortable that he kept those emails, and ask him why, but chances are he just never got around to deleting them. Clearly if the iPad is for both of you, he isn't hiding them from you though. What is it you are unsure about? Has he given reason to you for being unsure?

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