My kid won't get out of bed

Jessica - posted on 03/04/2013 ( 1 mom has responded )




Yeah, and he's not a teenager, or even a "tween." He's 5. And he refuses to get up in the mornings. He goes to bed at night around 8 or 8:30. Anything earlier is a battle that drags out usually past 10, so that's pretty pointless. I wake him up at 7. I turn on the light, give him his school clothes (uniform), and 15-20 minutes later he's still wrapped in the covers whining about how the light's too bright, he's cold, he's still tired, he doesn't want to go to school. Isn't this supposed to start at a later age? He has no choice in going to school, but he doesn't seem to grasp that no amount of arguing will change that. He's also very independent, which is why he dresses himself and brushes his own teeth in the morning. But we need to be out of the house by 7:30, and he just will not get out of bed. I have to go in there every 5 minutes, yell, threaten, sometimes spank, to get him to move even one bit. And that interrupts my getting ready, which only adds to us being late. I don't like starting my mornings with a fight, but I don't know how to fix it. Waking him up earlier doesn't help. If I let him watch cartoons he doesn't get dressed or anything either. He sleeps with music on so playing music in the morning won't help. I just don't know. Any suggestions?


Amber - posted on 03/04/2013




I went through this with my daughter who is now 11 and I also have 4 grown children and 5 grand children. This is what I would do for what its worth. When I went to wake him I would require him to go ahead and get out of the bed and help him make it right then. I would then walk him to the potty bring him back and help him put his clothes on. Try to stay as calm and matter of fact as you can. Even if he acts up don't react just keep on with the routine day after day until he see's that he can't get a reaction out of you and gets use to it. If he refuses to do something like, put his clothes on, then do it for him. I would then tell him if he wants to act like a big boy and put his own clothes on he can or you can throw a fit like babies do and I will do it for you. When he does behave well I would say good job! I wouldn't give him warnings or discuss it too much with him at this age. He will use it to draw you into a power struggle. If you say it's time to wake up, pat his back and show affection and he refuses, then pick him up out of the bed and begin the routine. It will be hard at first and he will fight you, but don't ever give in even a little or you will be starting from square one. Give an inch and he will take a mile is so true. He will think that sometimes I can get her to give in so I will try to every time. But if you never give in he will give up.

Hope this helps.

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