My mother in law name calls my daughter and likes to make her mad, how do I let her know its time to stop?

Mary - posted on 09/29/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )




I recently moved in with husband to my mother in law's house and she is always calling my 4year old daughter (her grand daughter) negative names, picking on her and pointing out only the bad things my daughter does! I don't really know how to handle this situation! I usually call my daughter and tell her every time some one does something like that to say "stop don't do that" and walk away!

I also understand that she was raised that way and that is the way she raised her sons, BUT name calling from someone who my daughter loves is bad for her self esteem!

So how can I let my mother in law know that she needs to stop that with out sounding rude, offending her, or hurting her feelings?


Bobbie - posted on 09/29/2012




That has to be awful! Your MIL sounds as if she is taking out her frustrations over having all of you under one roof on your daughter. We all have different parenting styles as well and she could be trying to get you to raise her as she sees fit. (which isn't going to happen)

My suggestion is that you don't get too comfy in her home. Stay in the mind set of a guest. Be super courteous and have your daughter on a schedule that permits your MIL to have some quiet time when she is home to defuse the situation. There should also be limits to the volume of noise when she is playing, her inside voice.

I know as a mother you are very protective and reactive to anyone saying anything negative to your little one. I am a tiger too. But I say give your MIL some of her privacy, quiet time and space back without toys all under foot and you will defuse the situation.

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