My mother is taking over my kids and never has given me acceptance

Ashley - posted on 08/11/2015 ( 3 moms have responded )




im 33 years old with 3 children who all live with my mom and my sons father who is my boyfriend is in jail and they dont like him even though he tries to gain their acceptance and any time i go to see him my mom kicks me out saying im choosing him over my babies


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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 08/11/2015




So, you're living with your mother...why? You're an adult. WELL into adulthood, actually. Why is your mother raising your children? Is it because you've been making poor choices?

My advice would be to dump your loser jailbird, get your life in order, and start being a parent to the children you created, rather than having your mother (who already raised the children she chose to bring into this world) have to go through the mess of raising more.

Dove - posted on 08/11/2015




Why are your children living w/ your mom? Did you lose custody of them or are they there by your choice because you can't take care of them?

I wouldn't like a guy who was in jail... I realize he is the father of one of your children, but he sounds like a loser. Time to stop hanging out w/ losers and put the well being of your children over everything else.

Kate - posted on 08/11/2015




yep, your mom might be right. If you have three kids and she is raising them, then you probably should make a decision as to what is most important to you, your kids who someone else is raising or someone who was a sperm doner and is now is jail.
You might want to try to get yourself in a situation that you are raising the kids, where you have a job and are supporting them on your own and give the kids a sense of security and a loving home. Then, if and when your boyfriend gets out of jail and gets his act together where he has a job and can support your kid (or at least assist in supporting them) try and start a life together. But you have an obligation to raise the children that you bore and you need to have enough respect for yourself that you will make a better life for you and your kids and move on if your boyfriend doesn't get his act together when he gets out of jail. Sorry to be so blunt, but you need to get your priorities in line and your kids should be your top priority along with making a good life for you. Good luck!

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