my narcissitic Adult daughter

Kathy - posted on 12/06/2017 ( 2 moms have responded )




was reading some of the Posts on adult narcissistic daughters, its been the worst the past 24 years, she is 48 I am 70, at least by reading the posts I do not think I have lost my mind. they make you feel like it is You, so far my grand children still have some what of a relationship with me , because now they are older and can drive , but she has tried to ruin that, so far God has not allowed that to happen. I am so depressed, but I read here I am far from the only one. I blame myself because when she had my first grand child was when the real NIGHT MARE started. the past 23 years she controlled me because if I did not keep quiet I was kicked out. They are all I have. I of course made my grand children idols in my heart and we know God is not happy about that, I wish I had trusted the Lord and put a stop to her behavior long ago, but I didn't , now she has rejected me this is the finale, this is the second Holiday season I am alone away from my family, if that's what I want to call her. Its the rejection that hurts, but I love the PEACE. !!! I wish I could make my mind up and move back to where I was raised, just to get away and not have all the memories. I am a mess. I know I am not the only one. My heart goes out to all of You Moms who have suffered with this personality disorder. Help us Lord. kathy


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Sue - posted on 12/07/2017




Dear OP,
I agree with Suzie that you should find a good church family. I am so sorry to hear about what you are going through, but the added stress isn't good for anybody. Time to stand up and get moving in a direction that will be fulfill your heart while you wait for her to call, etc. Maybe start volunteering with an organization that is dear to your heart. Can you keep in contact with your grandkids anyway? Maybe you could text them to keep up with them? Maybe have another heart to heart with your daughter and ask her the boundaries that she'd prefer so you can have a relationship with all of them. It feels impossible when dealing with a narcissist, but God will help you make a way! Praying for a peaceful ending and happiness to come!

Suzie - posted on 12/06/2017




It sounds like you are dealing with a narcissist. They are very selfish, self absorbed people who have no empathy for other people. It would be better for you to get away from them. Find a Church family where you feel comfortable and leave those people alone. You deserve to have peace in your life. I have had to leave all of my family behind and go no contact with them all. They were all so abusive toward me that I didn't feel that they acted like family at all. I finally had had it with them all. It just wasn't worth it to me to be around them anymore. The small amount that they gave just wasn't worth all the chaos, emotional abuse, little digs, bringing up things in the past that I didn't want to hear about, acting superior, treating me like I was stupid, etc, etc. I found absolutely no joy in being around these people.

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