my oldest sons temper has cost me my rights to my younger three teens

Crystal L - posted on 03/24/2015 ( 3 moms have responded )




My oldest son is bullheaded and very hard to handle. He has a violating temper and takes his aggressions out on my and my home and his girlfriend that is scared to leave. We are currently undergoing a court case of domestic assault but a few days ago him and his girlfriend got into a verbal dispute over somethin stupid and he pulled a knife out and asked her if she wanted him to kill himself and did this in front of my kids. Their father feels that they are not safe with me even though they have never been harmed here. And one of my twin daughter's is doing the exact same thing at her father's house. Although both children are wrong for those action he is threatening to keep my younger three teens from me. I don't know how to deal with this.


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Michelle - posted on 03/25/2015




The other ladies are right.
You need to get him out of your house and help his GF leave. You all need to get into counselling and try to repair the other children.
I suggest you just reread your title, that screams red flags and that you would put him before your other children. You know how he is so why have you let him around the others?

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 03/25/2015




First, the oldest needs to be charged and prosecuted for assault, and you need to help his girlfriend get herself out and into safety,

Of course his actions are affecting the behaviour of his younger siblings, and yes, they are at danger in his presence. If you have another child already mimicking the behaviour, it is doubly disturbing.

The eldest needs to be removed. At once. The rest need counseling, and to be in the custody of someone who will not allow their abusive brother near them.

Jodi - posted on 03/25/2015




Why is your oldest son living in your home? Sorry, but their father is right. And if you have a second child acting like this, you really do have to question whether what either of you are doing is okay as parents. Sorry, but two children acting violently in this way is concerning.

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