My partner is treating me different after having our child

Dawn - posted on 11/08/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )




My daughter is only 10 days old but the last week, my partner has changed in the way he is towards me. He is colder, gets angry quickly and picks at me. I suffer from depression & anxiety and am feeling so hurt and like I've lost our relationship. We obviously can't have sex yet and I wonder if that is contributing to his behavior. hes a great dad but I'm being neglected. is this normal or common for men after birth?


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Tracy - posted on 11/08/2013




Every situation is different but you need to get Dawn together because you have a newborn to look after, maybe talk to a close friend you can trust, pastor/rabbi, definitely a doctor about how U feeling. There are other ways to satisfy each other besides actual penetration maybe explore those options. He may just be feeding of you being down due to you stating that you are depressed and have anxiety. Talk to him and see what's on his mind. You willbe fine and the situation will work out for your good.

[momoftwo] - posted on 11/08/2013




That is strange but I'm sure a lot of guys go through it, my ex did but that's because he wanted me to have an abortion at the time and I said no. He treated me like crap even before I got pregnant though so thank god he's gone LOL.
And it may possibly be sex withdrawl but he shouldn't be taking it out on you like that, I mean at the same time he should have known you two couldn't go right back to sex after the baby was born too.
Another thing could be the big change and responsibilties now. My friend ended up with a surprise pregnancy and her dumbass baby dad would have tantrums because he couldnt smoke pot and hang out with his friends and have his poser "thug life" as he liked to call it.
From what I've seen and heard in life I do find that a lot of men can't handle their emotions and take changes in life very well.
You two need to have a serious talk though and try to work through it. It's hard. I read that having a baby and the first three years of it really tests a relationship. I hope he will understand your thoughts and feelings about how he's being because you and the baby don't deserve it.

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