My son does not sleep without being held how can I get him to sleep in his crib. He is 8 weeks old.

Dana - posted on 12/23/2010 ( 14 moms have responded )




My son is 8 weeks old and he sleeps with me at night due to the fact that when I put him in his crib at night he cries until I pick him up and then he goes back to sleep. I have tried soothing him with a binky and rubbing his back and belly nothing works but my holding him HELP. I am going back to work and I need him to sleep in his crib.


Daisy - posted on 12/24/2010




Even a his age a bed routine is important. After feeding make sure no gas and also doing well with formula if you are not breast feeding. You might need to switch formulas.
I was a nanny for a long time and also a foster parent of 22 newborn drug babies. Very fussy babies. Swaddling is wonderful, putting in stroller and gentle or a like shake walk. A bath with lavender scented baby calming, reading a book--it is not to early. Try Brown Bear Brown Bear what do you see. When you lay him down do not pick him up. Try stroke hair going forward on forehead. Do this when he is awake also. When you hold baby he is picking up your feelings. Try to say relax, relax and breathe. You will often find baby let go and get to a deep sleep. I can almost relax enough that I fall asleep. But I do not. Test and see if holding baby for longer or less and then putting him down. Darken room, no music, no stimulation, no talking to baby. No noise or tv in nearby rooms. These are just some suggestions. You can call the hosptial where you gave birth and ask for a support nurse. You can also make a sit down appt. with your doctor. Sleep is important for both of you. Last suggestion is keep him up longer or wake him up earlier from the last nap before bed. You may also want to break up feeding with a bit of time and then finish feeding. Hope some of these thoughts help. You should remember you are the best person to know and care for your baby. You will do fine. His tummy may be small or he just might be so happy with you he does not want to sleep. But taking care of you is really being the best mom. Last resort is hiring a short term night nanny who specializes in sleep help or just lets you get some sleep. Best of luck.

Emily - posted on 12/23/2010




If he sleeps better with you, wouldn't it be easier to just let him continue to sleep with you, so you'll both get more sleep? He's so little yet, and just spent 9 months being snuggly warm against your body.. so just give him some time. Eventually he will be able to sleep on his own, when he's ready.

Christine - posted on 12/26/2010




First of all just remember one thing...they grow up so darn fast! So appreciate this time while he's little and snuggly! (Mine are 15 and 12).

Secondly, don't be afraid to let him cry a little. Babies do get used to sleeping on their own in their crib. I personally was not able to get a wink of sleep when my babies were in bed with me which led to complete and utter exhaustion and a useless mom. I had to let them cry it out for a few nights until they got used to sleeping on their own.

One tip is to not allow him to fall asleep in your arms....establish a bedtime routine...maybe bathtime, snuggly pjs, bottle, some rocking but be sure and put him in his crib while he's still awake but drowsy. Then leave the room. After a few night of this he will become used to self-soothing which is the most important thing a baby can learn.

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sorry, but letting an infant sleep in a carseat while not in a car is very dangerous. there are warnings on the seat to not do it. i know it may have helped some babies to sleep, but it shouldnt be recommended. theres actually a thread about it on welcome to com... its worth a read. im a co-sleeper, so that would be my suggestion, i also agree with trying swaddling, or putting one of your shirts in with baby. good luck, we all know how hard it is when your baby wont sleep :)

Julia - posted on 12/23/2010




Are you swaddling him? SWADDLING IS SO HELPFUL!!! Both of my sons slept in a swaddle until they were 6 months old. If I tried to put them to sleep without one they fussed and wiggled and cried. Babies want to be held tight like they were in the womb.There are lots of swaddles out there that are easy to put on - my fave was called the Miracle Blanket for night time. We could not have survived without it!!


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Lise - posted on 12/31/2010




Agree with Emily and Sylvia... Our daughter was this way and we went with it. She changed her mind at 3 months and slept next to us.

Julie - posted on 12/31/2010




have you tried swaddling him. My son wouldnt sleep unless he was held someone told me it was the security and the smell that eased him and then one night about 4am after pacing the floor for the umpteenth hour for the umpteenth night and withe big purple bags under my eyes i flipped. i opened a big blanket wrapped him in nice and snuggly and layed him in his crib and took my nighty off my back and layed it like a sheet under him so that he was nicely snug and could still smell me. worked a treat he loved it till he turned 12 months old then he got too fidgety for the swadlle but still had either the tshirt i had on that day or the nighty from the night before.

Sylvia - posted on 12/27/2010




My daughter was like that. If it makes you feel any better, she's now 8 years old and sleeps like a rock in her own bed (once she's been told about four times that it's time to put away the book and go to sleep, that is :P).

I'm afraid I don't have any advice on how to get 8-week-old babies to sleep in cribs, because we didn't have a crib and we figured out very early on that if we tried to make DD sleep in the bassinet, no one was getting any sleep. When she slept with us we all slept a lot better, so that's what we did.

Lots of people swear by swaddling, although DD hated it with a burning white-hot passion, so YMMV. Worth a try, though.

Abbie - posted on 12/26/2010




I would swaddle and also put some sort of "white" noise in the room. You can also try putting a shirt you have worn in the crib so baby can smell it. Crying a little is ok, won't kill him :) It will get better.

Amanda - posted on 12/24/2010




mine would fall asleep in my arms but the sec i went to put her down, shed scream & wake up. for the 1st 3 months, she slept in a car seat bc that was the only way she'd sleep thru the nite. id either drive around with her then put the car seat next to my bed or id stick it on the dryer for a bit. It helps keep them more elevated to prevent acid reflux. that & they feel something hugging all around them. swaddling works well too!& so does just saying the hell with it & letting them sleep in ur bed with you!

Lara - posted on 12/24/2010




I put one of my night shirts under my babies, they could smell me, and I think it really helped! The swaddling helped too.... My daughter (almost 8 years old now) has 3 of my old shirts as "loveys"...try it! It might just help! Good luck!

Kyla - posted on 12/23/2010




Or you can try a bassient thats what my daugther slept in till she was 3 months old!! And now is 7 mothns old and is a great little sleeper. Hope that helps

Theresa - posted on 12/23/2010




My daughter was like that. It was like the crib was just too big for her. I wrapped her up tight then put her in her car seat. She slept much better like that. By the time she was old enough to roll over she moved into a crib just fine.

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