My son interrupts by saying 'excuse me, excuse me, excuseme' really fast over and over. He's 3 , how do I get him to not interrupt so much?

Ariana - posted on 02/11/2013 ( 1 mom has responded )




My son will go excusemeexcusemeexcuseme over and over really fast to get my (or the person I'm talking to) attention. I've tried telling him to just say it once, but he'll immediately say it one time,and then do the same thing next time we start talking.

He does it purposely when I'm talking to someone and he wants the attention on him. He doesn't do it ALL the time but he does it enough that I've started to notice it.

I've tried telling him to wait until there is a pause in the conversation but it usually only lasts so long, or to say excuse me just once and if he actually has something to say.

He'll go excuse me, and you're like yes? and then he just goes um... I have to tell you something, and you're like yes what is it? And he has nothing to say, or just randomly starts saying weird stuff or w/e because he can't actually think of what he should say.

Oh and I give him plenty of attention and talk to him lots, it's also not just long conversations, it's like you'll try to say a few things and he's automatically going EXCUSEMEEXCUSEMEEXCUSEME. It's just getting a bit frustrating and I'm trying to think of a good way to get him to stop. I've tried redirecting him to something else but he's not always easily distractible.


♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 02/11/2013




He's 3. You are making good progress with him.

However, at 3, you need to remember that it's constant redirection, reminding, and training!

Mine were the same at that age. What worked best for me was to simply hold up a finger, the same as indicating to someone that you'll just be a minute. This indicated to my son that he needed to be silent for a minute more. Then, when there was a natural pause in the conversation, I'd say "Ok, sonny, what did you need to tell ____"?

Don't get frustrated, just come up with a signal for him to understand. If mine didn't heed the finger, then they got the hand, as in "talk to the hand". They knew that the hand meant a firm "wait your turn". And, again, when there was a natural pause, I'd bring them into the conversation, or address their need.

Just like with every other behaviour, this is learned. Its frustrating to you right now. But, if you are consistent (and its ok for your friends or whomever is being interrupted to gently give him the same reminders) this will work!

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