My son is 9 weeks old, he will sleep in his car seat, pram, swing, bouncer, my arms and when i put him into his cot he will wake up almost instantly.

Danielle - posted on 01/13/2009 ( 49 moms have responded )

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I know that its probly the motion that gets him to sleep but thats not always the case, when he was in his moses basket, it took a while to get him to sleep but he did and for a good few hours. Now hes in his cot and i know that hes know scared of the "big" bed becasue if i lay him on my bed he will fall asleep and we dont want to be getting into that.



iv tired everything! music, lighting, sleep toys IE glow worms, ceiling projectors and nothing seems to work, he jut likes there wide awake, even though he was asleep when i lay him down to sleep. iv even tired putting him in there awake so that he f aleep himself but that doesnt work either, hell just wimper loader and louder intill its a cry and i have to get him becaue its so loud.



he sleep fine during the day when he naps but the problems of a night, i have to keep getting up and going into him to get him back to sleep, it takes me about 2 hours to seetle him after hes woken up,ven after a feed at times.



does anyone have any ideas??

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Cassie - posted on 01/14/2009

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you should really have someone look at the ears......seriously short naps of 20 mins and stuff....i would just rule out an ear infection.  sometimes when they are babies that is the only way you know, they don't sleep and you cant get them back to sleep. it honestly sounds 100% like what i went through with austin when he has had ear infections.  also good for you....no need to put cereal in a bottle....very old school technique. 

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Amy - posted on 01/14/2009

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we had the same issue with our son, he just dosen't like to sleep.  He never took naps and wouldn't sleep for more than about 2-3 hours until he was 6 months old!  We swadled him and had music playing in his room.  It still didn't help him sleep.  We finally (from advice from our dr, family and friends) at night time put him in his room, and every 15 min or so would check on him if he's still awake and not happy.  After about a week he started to get the picture and was fine.



Also, when it came time to change his diaper, we would do so in the dark and don't talk to him, just change him and put him right back in his bed (or feed him depending on if it was time to eat).



Good Luck!

Claudette - posted on 01/14/2009

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A visit to your pediatrician my prove useful.  Sounds like he has reflux.  If after you've taken him to the pediatrician and verified 'no reflux', I would get  a nightime routine going...bath, sing a song while rubbing in lotion, story time in a the slider/rocking chair, etc.  And off to bed. If you know he's fed and dry, you'll may have to resort to allowing him to cry it out.  Which mother wants to hear their baby cry?  I know, but there are 2 messages you're trying to send...(1) This is where you sleep and (2) Mummy needs sleep too.  Hang in there.

Danielle - posted on 01/14/2009

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bathing him before bed doesnt work, it wakes him more he likes to kick and splash. 6oz is more than enough for him, he doesnt drink it all, he leaves about 0.5oz



and at 9 weeks old im not putting anythink into his milk.

Denise - posted on 01/14/2009

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he weighs 11lb 8oz and is on 6oz of milk



 



 



 



he  doesnt go down thats the problem, he will drop off at bout 8 but only naps bout 10 mins, i try too keep him awake now untill he is really tired in the theory he would sleep longer, so hell go down about 9.30/10ish but sometimes takes along time to get him off. then its not for long.



 



11lbs  8oz........6 oz bottle...........i would increase that especially at night before bed.  also you may want to try alittle cereal in the bottle.   i am not sure if you breastfeed or not, but if you do not then you may want to change his formula.  the type of formula also matters.  if you use good start i have heard that this is not enough for babies and that similac products are better and more filling. 



Lastly too it definitely sounds like his days and nights are mixed up which is quite normal.  Also like I mentioned if you pick him up every time he wakes up this will work against you.  try a nice warm bath before bed.



 



good luck i wish you success!

Amanda - posted on 01/13/2009

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Thats quite normal. My daughter was the same, she would sleep in her pram, baby rocker and anything that motion moves. What i did was i put her mosses basket into her pram and rocked her till she fell asleep then i would carry the mosses basket and then put her in her cot, still in her mosses basket. i did this till she was 11 weeks then she slept through the night. we moved house, then her troubles started again, so we had to do this all over again. my daughter is now age 2 and she's hates going to bed, but once she's in bed she's fine, but my 4 yr old son has to go to bed 1st or my daughter won't go to bed. when she see's her brother in bed then she does the same. we only have a 2 bed house at the moment. i'm sure your baby will sleep soon. I hope thats good advice. from Mandy (amanda)

Clara - posted on 01/13/2009

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I had that problem too. I just went through a couple weeks of a screaming baby. I would lay her down awake and eventually she got into the routine. i would go into the room every couple minutes to let her know i was there...She would eventually fall asleep. I got easier as the time went on. She is now 6 months old and goes to bed with no problems, actually smiles when I up her down!
Good Luck!!!

Fawn - posted on 01/13/2009

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My second son was like that when hewas a baby he would sleepfine durring the day and I could put him down in bed at night but when he woke up at night he would cry for hours I talked to the doctors and he had colic.

June - posted on 01/13/2009

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Oh ya if your gonna hold him till he sleeps in your arms wait till you feel his lil body fully relaxed and then lay down slooowly with him and hold then roll away lol Oh yea hum or sing lol oh yea don't be quite. gotta get him use to noises. Being to quite at times is not good.

June - posted on 01/13/2009

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First do you breast or bottle feed ? If you breast feed he wants the closeness, warmth, security, the heart beat, just like when he was inside growing. Babies are still in the fetal postion till about 3 to 4 mths old, so being put down in a wide open space I bet his arms fly open like he is scared he is falling. Now bottle feed pretty much almost samething, but really it wont hurt him to cry abit, i can't remember off the top of my head how long to let baby's cry for, cause they will suth themselves. I have a 5 mth old and I had her on a routine breast feed for almost 8 yrs, I have 6 children,lol. My 1st 2 bottle and last 4 breast feed. my last well she is just like that now after her daddy walked around the house holding her spoiling her, now my routine is shot lol. And boyy does she screamed, now she suthed herself by finding her thumb lol and holding a blanket. Just need to talk to your baby mommy is ... ohh it is ok ...ur fine ... I'm here ... ETC. I feel what ever may work for one and may not for others and babies are all different, Well Good Luck. Oh yea try to sneek away slowly lol after laying him down. I do and that works lol.Good Luck %%-

Evamarie - posted on 01/13/2009

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have you ever heard of the miracle blanket? go to www.miracleblanket.com it is amazing. my daugher was sleeping through the night at 4 weeks old and is now 6 months old. you can't buy it in a store. it has these flaps for their arms and you wrap them up super tight. it is only "good" until 14 weeks, but i still put her in it when she is really fussy during the day. it is amazing! go to the website and you can see how it works. worth every penny!

Julie - posted on 01/13/2009

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the only other suggestion i have is with my 7 week old i find she sleeps betterin her vibrating chair at night , she is more upright in it, works for us

also that book, happies baby on the block is like GOLD for me.. it is so good!! and it works!

Jennifer - posted on 01/13/2009

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Hi Danielle. My daughter was the same way at that age. (she's now 6 months) I found if I laid her down with her head first then her body, it wasn't as much of a shock to wake her up. (the startle reflex) Also, I put one of my t-shirts under her so she still had my scent with her. I also had a sleep sheep that played different sounds to mimic the sounds she would have heard in the womb. I remember too doing the shushing sounds while she was in my arms and continuing it as I lay her in her crib and then slowly backing away from her lowering my shushing until I was out the door. Good luck!

Stacey - posted on 01/13/2009

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You might also want to try putting a piece of your clothing in the cot with him. Your smell might be enough to comfort him and allow him to fall asleep.



And if it is relflux, if you put a book under the mattress to elevate him some, that will help too.



Good Luck!

Jessica - posted on 01/13/2009

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I would push the doctor to try some reflux medication, if you're not against it.  My son had it but the only way we knew for certain was because we tried the meds and it made a big difference within a couple days.  He is now 8.5 months and has been off the meds for a couple months.  If it doesn't make a difference, then you can stop the meds but at least you know that's not it.






Also, if you see a difference when your baby sleeps in the car seat, I would let him sleep there.  One of the other women talked about putting the car seat in the crib--we did that with my daughter when she was sick as an infant so she would still be used to the crib, so maybe it would help your son get used to being in it.  The swaddling also worked wonders for my daughter.






Last, I know I'll be controversial for saying this, but I tried letting my son sleep on his stomach when he was just over one month old and it made all the difference.  My husband and I discussed it and agreed that we wanted to try it with him.  I started letting him sleep on his belly during the day when I could watch him and he did beautifully from the start.  Literally he just started sleeping.  He apparently felt like a turtle flipped onto it's shell because we noticed such a tremendous difference almost immediately.  He could turn his head from side to side and we made sure nothing else was in his co-sleeper or his crib.  No blankets, nothing.  It's the best decision we've made in terms of his sleep needs--he is an amazing sleeper and I wouldn't change a thing.






Good luck with your little man!



Lucy - posted on 01/13/2009

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Have you tried using a head support cushion similar to the ones in carseats? Perhaps the security of that around his head will help? Good luck with whatever you try! 

Lucy - posted on 01/13/2009

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Have you tried using a head support cushion similar to the ones in carseats? Perhaps the security of that around his head will help? Good luck with whatever you try! 

Lucy - posted on 01/13/2009

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Have you tried using a head support cushion similar to the ones in carseats? Perhaps the security of that around his head will help? Good luck with whatever you try! 

Lucy - posted on 01/13/2009

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Have you tried using a head support cushion similar to the ones in carseats? Perhaps the security of that around his head will help? Good luck with whatever you try! 

Katherine - posted on 01/13/2009

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My son was the same!  We figured out that the trick for us was to wrap him in a blanket of some sort (the warmth of it makes it so they don't realize you've put them down...)  Babies hit deep sleep right away so as soon as he was out we had to put him down in the crib. 



Another thing we did was to make the bigness of the crib smaller by filling a bit of the end with pillows/stuffed animals (far enough so that the wee one can't get them in his face of course) an then gradually make it bigger so he didn't notice it as much.



The night waking amy also be a "phase", for some reason they hate to miss out on anything--even mom and dad sleeping...he could have his nights and days a little mixed up too.  We did a bit of nap fiddling to try to get Ralegh to sleep better at night. 



We have the Dr. Sears "Baby Book" and find it quite useful.  Ralegh is almost 2 now and I still read it.



I hope the sleep issues settle soon, you deserve a good night's sleep!  Good Luck.

Katherine - posted on 01/13/2009

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My son was the same!  We figured out that the trick for us was to wrap him in a blanket of some sort (the warmth of it makes it so they don't realize you've put them down...)  Babies hit deep sleep right away so as soon as he was out we had to put him down in the crib. 



Another thing we did was to make the bigness of the crib smaller by filling a bit of the end with pillows/stuffed animals (far enough so that the wee one can't get them in his face of course) an then gradually make it bigger so he didn't notice it as much.



The night waking amy also be a "phase", for some reason they hate to miss out on anything--even mom and dad sleeping...he could have his nights and days a little mixed up too.  We did a bit of nap fiddling to try to get Ralegh to sleep better at night. 



We have the Dr. Sears "Baby Book" and find it quite useful.  Ralegh is almost 2 now and I still read it.



I hope the sleep issues settle soon, you deserve a good night's sleep!  Good Luck.

Cassie - posted on 01/13/2009

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make sure you take him to the dr just to make sure all is fine....at 3 wks my son was doing the same thing, everyone thought I was crazy bc I have thought something was wrong turned out he had an ear infection.  So when he laid flat the pressure in his head bugged him.  Anyhow when we were sent to an infectious disease dr he finally said he had an ear infection....he was 9 wks and they hadn't been able to find it the million times I went to the dr.....i would just eliminate that as being an issue......good luck

Danelle - posted on 01/13/2009

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I would let him sleep in the swing... my daughter would only sleep in her swing or bouncy until she was 6 or 7 months old.

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My daughter could never sleep in her crib as an infant, she would cry and cry. If she was in an upright position she slept much better, I think it was mostly due to acid reflux. She slept in her bouncy seat, which I placed in her crib so she would get used to the surroundings, until she was 7 months old. She then out grew the bouncy seat and realized that she didn't want to be straped in to sleep. (my pediatrition told me not to worry, her son did the same thing.)



Good luck.

Louise - posted on 01/13/2009

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My son sleeped in his pram, which was like a lil basinette, we were able to remove this part of the pram & place in the cot, till he got used sleeping in the cot, on his own, we had to remove his musical mobile as he creid everytime he saw it, maybe it was a bit scary at night, but day sleeps with it on, he was ok.

just don't try to rush it, my son moved out of the pram till he was too big.

Amy - posted on 01/13/2009

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My daughter is 4 months old and she does the same thing. I have found that if I lay her on my breast feeding pillow at night she sleeps. I think it gives her the feeling that she is being held. Might want to try that it worked for me.

Jennifer - posted on 01/13/2009

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Sounds like he needs to be warmer, he is very warm in the smaller areas but then when you put him in the bed its big and cold try warming the bed first or more blankets

Jennifer - posted on 01/13/2009

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Sounds like he needs to be warmer, he is very warm in the smaller areas but then when you put him in the bed its big and cold try warming the bed first or more blankets

Daniella - posted on 01/13/2009

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My daughter who is 11 now only would sleep in her swing or carseat for the first 6 months. I was concerned but the doctor told me she would be fine. Now I have a 3 month old and she does the exact same thing. As soon as I put her down she wakes. I get her to sleep and let her stay asleep for a bit before I put her down. Also my second child slept on his stomach because of reflux. And my 3 month old now does the same thing. I just elevate the mattress with books. I find she sleeps much better. Since I have been putting her on her stomach she has slept through the night.

Jennifer - posted on 01/13/2009

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My son was the exact same way up until about 3 months old.

I found it's because most of the things he's fallen asleep in has been elevated in some way or another.

So what we did, was elevated his crib by putting a pillow under the head of the mattress and he has been sleeping there since :)

Tina - posted on 01/13/2009

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I agree that swaddling the baby will be very effective he just wants to feel safe and snug as if he were still in the womb

User - posted on 01/13/2009

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i found that if i put them in there moses basket  and in to the cot in there basket  it helped after about three weeks i took them out and put them into the cot, that worked for me

Maryellen - posted on 01/13/2009

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Are you swaddling him? Try swaddling him really tight, that might make him feel more secure..I wouldnt let him cry it out, hes too young, but give him a few minutes to cry and if he doesnt stop, go in, give him a pacifier, turn some music on and leave, he may just want to make sure mommy is still there...eventually he wont feel so insecure and will start to sleep better for you...as hard as it is, try not to give in, and bring him to your bed or rock him all the time, its a hard habit to break...good luck...this too shall pass

User - posted on 01/13/2009

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9 weeks is a bit young for normal sleep schedules -- usually between 3-6 months they fall into more regular cycles -- I and many friends found the book "healthy sleep habits, happy child" to be beneficial. Does your son have tummy issues? Sometimes that can cause waking -- my daughter had colic related to gas and cut out milk products to help ease the pain. Also, both my children (not 5 and 7) co-slept until they were about 4 months -- neither had issues going into their own bed (just a few nights of crying in the crib and they got used to it).

All in all, it's a tough time for both you and baby -- hang in there the best you can and eventually your son will mature and sleep at night!

Carrie - posted on 01/13/2009

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my baby will only sleep in his motionless crib if i move him into there after he falls asleep and let him sleep on his tummy. i have a sensor that will go off if he stops breathing so i don't hafta worry about him stopping breathing. he has gas bad and went i put him on his tummy he farts a lot then falls back to sleep.

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Try swaddlers. You can buy them at Babies R Us, Target, almost anywhere. Here's a link to one at Target so you can see what I'm talking about http://www.target.com/Kiddopotamus-Co-Co... I would definitely read the Happiest Baby on the Block book - it all works! There's 5 "S"'s: Swaddle, swing, shush, suck and side/stomach. I never did them all together as the book suggests, but all of them work.

Odette - posted on 01/13/2009

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My daughter didn't like her crib either for the first 5 months. She slept with me at night (propt up on my arm) and in the swing during the day. Then at about 5 months she started fussing at night in bed with me. I finally just put her in her crib and that's where she's been since. She doesn't like to sleep anywhere but there now.



I think every baby is different and eventually with time will take to their crib. Just takes a lot of patience and understanding.

User - posted on 01/13/2009

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it could be becasue those places are less spacious. try swaddling him. we swaddled my son FORevER- but it had to be tight so they cant get out. good luck

Danielle - posted on 01/13/2009

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Quoting Emily:

. I found that swaddling helped a lot because he still thought that I was holding him. I the baby it deeply asleep the arm with fall back with a thud and the baby won't wake up. If the baby is not in deep sleep then they will resist their arm being pulled up, or they will control the falling of their arm.



im going to try that theory, at the moment, when my son is in a deep sleep he stops sucking his dummy and spits it out all together.



 



however with the swaddling, he doesnt like his arms being tucked in, he likes them by the sides of his head.

Emily - posted on 01/13/2009

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My Son was the same way. I found that swaddling helped a lot because he still thought that I was holding him. I think that he mostly liked the warmth and movement of me and the swing, so putting him in the crib was such a shock because he wasn't constantly moving anymore.

One thing that also really helped is the sleep test. Babies when they are in a deep sleep are past the REM or dream pattern( if I remember correctly they are the opposite of adults where REM is our deep sleep). Anyway, to see if your baby is in deep sleep, when they won't wake up, take their arm and lift it in the air about an inch or two, then let go. I know it sounds cruel, but I swear I got it from a book. If the baby it deeply asleep the arm with fall back with a thud and the baby won't wake up. If the baby is not in deep sleep then they will resist their arm being pulled up, or they will control the falling of their arm.

Good luck!

User - posted on 01/13/2009

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Hey honey,



I had the exact same problem, Esme could be fast asleep and as soon as I put her down she cried, we ended up rolling ablanket up next to her so she thought we were still holding her, also we let her cry for the first 2 - 3 times as long as it wasnt for longer than 10 minutes so she didnt fill up with wind. Now she loves going to sleep on her own in her cot and we are really happy



good luck and dont worry sooner or later they do all get over it, just dont let him get too used to falling asleep on you as then they end up in your bed : )

Michelle - posted on 01/13/2009

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Regarding the reflux - there was no apparent signs my son had it either.  It wasn't until about 9 months and he was sitting up regularly that the doctor brought it up.  At that point he didnt need medication, but I'd still ask your dr at his next well baby check up. 



And in the meantime try some of the other good suggestions here. 



We were in the hospital on Christmas Day too.  My son had pneumonia.  Not fun.



 

Rebecca - posted on 01/13/2009

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My daughter was the same way we finally resolved to having her sleep in her carseat at night and I know its not conventional but it worked when we did this she would stay asleep the whole night we just put the carseat right inside her crib. We did this until she got about 4 months then she settled down enough to sleep in her bed without the carseat.

Carissa - posted on 01/13/2009

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I think he likes the idea of being snuged. i would wrap him tightly in a blanket and put one on your shirts on his cot lie him down on your shirt and you may want to use a heating pad before you put him down so its not a shock to him if its cold. I put the heating pad on the shirt than i took it off right before i knew i was going to put the baby down.  but the shirt with your sent should help him, if not you may want to keep a air purifer on for the noise in the room he might need a constant noise. good luck



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Zarah - posted on 01/13/2009

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First i would say music or projectors are great! Although they are not working with your little baby. Maybe u could try : after his feed/nappy/burp

1) start the music or you singing

2) After 1minute place him in cot

3 ) Parent sits on floor not visable 2 your son

4) gentle put 1 hand on stomach or arm just he can feel your there

5) continue singing or music

6)Gradually sofen your touch as he relaxes

7) if he stirs continue steps 3-6



Hope your baby will relax with his bed at night time. Hope this helps. I did this with both my babies and by just my touch they were relaxed but i didnt need 2 transfer them cause they were already in there cot. Sometimes its wind or teething or change in amount your baby eats can really disrupt there sleeping 2 :)

Danielle - posted on 01/13/2009

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Quoting Denise:



It seems like he may have his days and nights mixed up alittle?






You may want to try moving his naps up to earlier in the day.  He may be getting too much sleep during the day.






What time does he go down at night? 






Also how much does he weigh?  Do you feed him enough before he goes to sleep?  Sometimes if you top him off, he will be full and sleepy......






 





he doesnt sllep much during the day, bout 20 mins around 2ish.



 



he weighs 11lb 8oz and is on 6oz of milk



 



he  doesnt go down thats the problem, he will drop off at bout 8 but only naps bout 10 mins, i try too keep him awake now untill he is really tired in the theory he would sleep longer, so hell go down about 9.30/10ish but sometimes takes along time to get him off. then its not for long.

Danielle - posted on 01/13/2009

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Quoting Michelle:



Oh man, my son was the same exact way.  We figured out later that he possibly had reflux (he was sort of a chubby boy) and laying down flat in his crib was uncomfortable.  This is difficult, because really there is no safe way to prop a baby up.







weve actually had to take him to the hostpital over that, (xmas day of all days!) he wasnt drinking or eating and all he was he was brining back up again, but they dont seem to think that it is reflux.



 



im going to try the swaddling.

Denise - posted on 01/13/2009

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It seems like he may have his days and nights mixed up alittle?



You may want to try moving his naps up to earlier in the day.  He may be getting too much sleep during the day.



What time does he go down at night? 



What worked for us is just letting him go which may be stressful, but unless you do this he may get used to you coming in and picking him up.  If you stay strong and let him work through it you may find that his waking up may stop. 



Also how much does he weigh?  Do you feed him enough before he goes to sleep?  Sometimes if you top him off, he will be full and sleepy......



We used the Leap Frog Doll Tad which has a button for 6 minutes of sleepy time music which worked wonders for us.  In fact we still use it today.



But I am telling ya if you try to ignore the wimpers and crying he will learn to work through it and fall asleep.  The more you interupt that the more routine it will get and nothing will work.  So when you put him down go to a place in your house that you can not hear him.  Do laundry, take a shower, something.  Wait 20 minutes and listen for him but do not go in.....



Good luck.......I have been there

Michelle - posted on 01/13/2009

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Oh man, my son was the same exact way.  We figured out later that he possibly had reflux (he was sort of a chubby boy) and laying down flat in his crib was uncomfortable.  This is difficult, because really there is no safe way to prop a baby up.



I would suggest talking to your dr about it to see if the reflux thing might even be an issue.



My other suggestion would be to find the book, "Happiest Baby on the Block" by Harvey Karp, MD.  There's a swaddling technique in there that seems almost barbaric but it truly works.  The first time I tried it, my son took a 5 hour nap. 



Good luck and remember, this wont last forever.

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