my son is almost 4 and is really sooky n cries over EVERYTHING is this normal


Stacey - posted on 04/10/2011




thanks... example he will hit his 2yold brother infront of me ill ask him why did he hit he cries and says i did mum n will not say he hit him no matter how long after i ask him.. n if he says i love u mummy n i dont answer the way he likes it i have to say i love u back to him really happy or he cries saying i hate him


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Elizabeth - posted on 04/11/2011




What a pain in the butt. You need to cut this out right now..or you are going to have 2 whinny ones after you if you don't already.

Ignoring whinning works incredibly well. Sometimes children need to be taught the words to use to ask for what they need. For example ..."It makes me upset/angry/frustrated when ..."

This is a habit which has become out of control. Breaking a habit takes time ..but if YOU are persistent and reminding him that "I cannot understand you when you speak that way" he will no longer whine.

Jodi - posted on 04/10/2011




With some kids, it is normal. Even my less-than-sooky daughter started doing this, and I realised it was probably because it got her the attention she was after. So I started ignoring it, and making it clear to her that when she was NOT going to get her way by sooking about things. Use her words properly, talk to me without sooking, and we can negotiate, but sooking is just not acceptable.

So basically, I would make it clear that you will no longer pay attention to him when he is sooking and crying over things, only when he is talking to you properly, and then ignore it when it happens. "I am not listening to you until you stop sooking".

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