my son is curious!

Ashley - posted on 07/17/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )




Yesterday my 3 year old son and my boyfriends 3 year old daughter were playing in the room. When I walked in to check on them they were both naked. not doing anything but they had both taken their clothes off. When I asked him why he took his clothes off he just said "i dont know" and when you ask her she says "because i wanted to ". We are not quite sure how to handle this. I talked to both of them telling them that you dont take your clothes off in front of anyone and that boys and girls are different and to never take your clothes off, but im not quite sure how to handle this.. please help . me and her daddy are freaking out on how to handle this.. we are scared to let them play alone now.


Ariana - posted on 07/18/2013




Have the kids seen other kids naked? Maybe you should let them bathe together, and just tell them there are certain times we can see each other naked (like bath time) and other times where we don't (the rest of the time haha!).

Kids are curious, wanting to see someone naked, or being naked around someone does NOT mean they are going to start making out. Adults put their adult ideas onto children. The kids probably didn't know why they did it, and just did it because they wanted to, as you said.

People are to afraid of their own bodies, and we're so used to always wearing clothes that nakedness automatically means sex, but that's not how it actually is. If they haven't seen others naked then that is just going to make them more curious and more aware of it. I would just explain to them your thoughts and be done, there is no need to freak out over it or anything.


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Angela - posted on 10/04/2013




They're only 3-it may be a little early to have the talk about appropriateness and clothing. I would think that's something you shouldn't worry about until they are approaching school age. But that's how I feel about it. Even if you don't think they should be doing this, there's nothing to fear about their curiosity. Kids explore and play doctor. It's normal. When you do choose to explain it to them, please be careful to not make them feel ashamed of their bodies.

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