my son is currently serving in the british army any due to go on first tour how to cope with anxiety

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Hannah - posted on 01/30/2009

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Hi Amanda,



My husband is military and has just gone regular having done 18 years in the TA.  He did a tour in Iraq in 2004 and will be going to Afghan in the next 2 years.  It is hard but you just have to keep thinking positive.  Write him lots of letters, blueys and send him lots of little parcels.  I know my husband appreciated those and it makes you feel like you're in contact with him.     I hope that his tour goes well and that you manage to keep calm.  If you need to sound off, add me as a friend and send me a message, I'm always willing to listen cos I know how hard it is.

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Marjorie - posted on 01/30/2009

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Pray. That is the best thing to do to help with the stress and fear of him being gone. Find someone in your area to talk too, someone who is going through the same situation that you are. Only those who have a child deployed away from home can really understand how we feel.

Denise - posted on 01/30/2009

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I do not have any children in the military, but I wrote the following prayer for another lady who does have a son in Iraq.  She was so afraid for her son that I wrote this prayer for her to say over him.  Just put your son's name in the blanks.  Do not fear, God will bless and keep your son safe! 





Prayer to put on the armor of God



 



Dear God,



 



     I ask you in the name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth (the true Messiah) to protect __________ from every device of the enemy.  As spoken in your Word (Ephesians Chapter 6) I ask you God to place your armor on them.  I believe that as ___________ wears this Spiritual armor it will keep them safe from all harm.  Ephesians 6:10-17:  Finally, my brethren, be strong in the Lord, and in the power of his might.  Put on the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil.  For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.  Wherefore take unto you the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand.  Stand therefore (___________), having your loins girt about with truth, and having on the breastplate of righteousness; And your feet shod with the preparation of the gospel of peace; Above all, taking the shield of faith, wherewith ye shall be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked.  And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God.



 



     I ask that you would protect ____________ and be their shield and buckler.  Psalms 18:2:  The LORD is my rock, and my fortress, and my deliverer; my God, my strength, in whom I will trust; my buckler, and the horn of my salvation, and my high tower.  Proverbs 30:5:   Every word of God is pure: he is a shield unto them that put their trust in him.



 



     Using scripture I can help fight the battle for _____________.  They can have victory through Jesus Christ, who is the Word of God.  John 1:14:  And the Word was made flesh, and dwelt among us, (and we beheld his glory, the glory as of the only begotten of the Father,) full of grace and truth.  Revelation 19:13:  And he was clothed with a vesture dipped in blood:  and his name is called The Word of God.



 



     I will not be afraid, because you have not given me the spirit of fear – but of power, love, and a sound mind.  II Timothy 1:7:  For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.  I commit ___________ to you, God, and I believe that you will keep them safe; because your Word says that you will keep that which I have committed unto you.  II Timothy 1:12:  For the which cause I also suffer these things:  nevertheless I am not ashamed:  for I know whom I have believed, and am persuaded that he is able to keep that which I have committed unto him against that day. 



 



     I believe and trust you, God, with the one(s) I love.  In accordance to your Word, Isaiah 54:17, which states:  “no weapon that is formed against thee (___________) shall prosper; and every tongue that shall rise against thee in judgment thou shalt condemn.  This is the heritage of the servants of the Lord, and their righteousness is of me, saith the Lord.  John 10:10 also tells us …I (which is Jesus) am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly.  So I claim that ___________ has life and has life more abundantly.  Psalm 118:17:  I (___________) shall not die, but live, and declare the works of the Lord.



                                                                             



     From this day forward, I thank you Lord Jesus that you have heard and answered my prayers.  I know that you have already petitioned God on behalf of ___________.  I John 5:15:  And if we know that he hear us, whatsoever we ask, we know that we have the petitions that we desired of him. 



 



     I have spoken God’s Word over ___________ and I know that God’s Word is true.  I know that ___________ is safe because God is with them, and I give God all the glory forever, Amen!    

Amanda - posted on 01/30/2009

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Thanks i am so proud of him and what i fantastic special young man he is and i think i may sit down tomorrow and write and tell him just that .

Melissa - posted on 01/30/2009

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I dont know whats its like to be a mom and watching her son go,  but i can tell you some things about being in the army. Its not british but I am in the army myself. From the first day at boot camp to the school he went to to learn his trade he has been doing nothing but training and more training. If he was not showing his capabilities and skills to prove himself, he wouldnt be going. Your pride in him is what he has himself right now. Finally all his hard work and training is being paid off and he is getting a chance at doing what he has signed up to do. I dont know what  its like there but I know here we have resource centers on our army bases that are really good with family support. Get in touch with them and they can explain anything and everything ( thats excluding confidential  info to you. ) My advice to you turn that anxiety into pride. Know in your head and heart that although he is in a place one never wants a love one to go, hes doing what he has been training for, for a very long time.  Trust in your son and country that if he was needed there to help, he wouldnt be, and as soon as he doesnt have to be, he will be home, with you and the rest of your family.  When you think about him and start to worry, write a letter, its kind of old fashion but letters from home when your away changes a bad day into a good one. Just  knowing that you have people thinking about you and are proud of you can pick your spirits up when your down and lonely.  I dont know if this helped you and i dont know what my mom would say, but i would want her to know these things if she was worried about me in the same situation. cheers.

Hannah - posted on 01/30/2009

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I've been to Cyrpus with the Army - there are a lot worse places to celebrate your 18th that Limmasol!  With all the stabbings etc. in Manchester and Bolton recently - he probably is safer (we live in the same area)! 
No problem, anytime x 

Amanda - posted on 01/30/2009

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Thanks yeah i tell m myself that all the time he's safer now than out on a nite out in manchester , he's currently in cyprus so i think Limosol will be the choosen event this weekend , Big party planned for march when he's home on RR , Afgan in august ,cross that bridge when it arrives !



Again thanks x



 



 

Hannah - posted on 01/30/2009

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I bet you are.  I'm missing my husband loads as well and he's only away in Sandhurst at the moment for 6 weeks!  18 is so young but the other lads will look out for him, the army becomes a second family for its personnel (I'm TA as well so I experience both sides).  There is one positive thing that at least by being in the Army you know where he is and have an idea what he's doing, and he's not getting in with the wrong crowd!  I hope he has a fantastic bithday, I'm sure you'll make up with celebrations when he gets home!

Amanda - posted on 01/30/2009

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Thanks i know there's thosands in thesame boat but no-one i know  close to me understands the mixed feelings of pride and terror ... plus he's eighten tomorrow  so really missing him .

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