My son Joseph passed away

Tanya - posted on 02/27/2015 ( 3 moms have responded )




Not sure what I am looking for here I know no one can give me the answers I need
I have been married almost 13 years and was told we could not have children with out help
So we finally got pregnant and my Joseph was born January 23 2015 he was and is my world I have never felt love like this before than February 17 2015 he passed away from SIDS
I feel robed mad angry sad disappointed and every other emotion you could possibly feel I just want my son back and no one can help or tell me what I need to do


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Sarah - posted on 02/27/2015




Tanya, I don't know what to say to make you feel any better right now. I lost twin girls within two hours of their arrival in November 2009. I knew before they arrived that they would not live due to a birth defect. I can tell you that it does get better. Very slowly. There will come a day when it will not hurt every single second.
I found that going to a support group for parents of lost children did help. I chose one that was open to all situations, not just infant or fetal death. There were parents of adult children, miscarriages, suicides and SIDS. The mothers and fathers from that group knew how I felt. I could say whatever I felt and no one judged me. Perhaps the best part was since everyone in the group had suffered a loss, there was no awkwardness. That awful silence when you encounter a friend or family member and they don't know what to say, or they are afraid to share a happy story with you. I hated being treated like that, like people were afraid of me.
Don't be afraid to go get some help. Even if you don't say a word or can't say a word, no one will judge you. Also, I needed to go on antidepressants for a time as well. Talk to your doctor about that. The combination of postpartum hormones and grief, was too much for me to handle without help.

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