My son wasn't invited to thanksgiving at his father's.

Robyn - posted on 11/23/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )




My son's father is on the birth certificate, child support has been established and custody has not been established. In my state it is assumed that both parents share custody.

From day 1 I have given my son's father the choice to pick days and times that he wants our son. For the past 6 months it has been 1 day a week for 5 or 6 hours.

Father's day was a Sunday (the day he always takes him) but he didn't ask for our son. Instead he wanted him the Saturday before for his birthday (my son's dad's birthday).

I gave my son's father another chance to try and make us two work and maybe date again. Two out of the four days we spent together he didn't want our son with. Now Thanksgiving just passed and he wanted me to go to lunch with him. He didn't want to include our son. I declined the lunch date. I was asked out to a movie tomorrow night and I declined that also.

If Christmas goes by without him wanting to see our son I will be filing for custody. My son is only a year old but I don't know what else to do. Obviously it hurts me more than my son but I can't help it. Am I wrong to feel this way? If I was going to date someone else I would expect the guy to want to only spend time with me to begin with, but this is my son's father. I'm confused.


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Sophia - posted on 11/23/2012




I really dont understand .. why would you want to make it work with a man that dont care... he likes you better then the kid .... and its his kid. why would you want this poor child to spend thanksgiving with someone who dont even want to be with him on father's day ? its not that big a deal to be with the father of your kid.... only a big deal when he is a man to you and a dad to his kid. sister you both are better than this.

Dove - posted on 11/23/2012




Your son sees his dad once a week? My kids haven't seen their father in almost a year.....

I'm sorry, I know this is your vent and it's certainly your right to be upset about a crummy situation. I guess my main reason for posting is to let you know that it could be SOOO much worse.

I don't see anything wrong with you getting a court order for custody and visitation though. In fact I think that is probably a GOOD thing.... but if you are doing it to try and completely eliminate his father from his life.... it's not going to happen... nor should it.

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