my sons father new wife acts like shes my son mother what can i do?

Haylin - posted on 04/18/2015 ( 10 moms have responded )

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Well first of i put child support on my baby father about 6 yrs ago and he started pay last yr @ july and stopped on January of this yr 2015. i haven't received anything ever since what can i do? Now his new wife is always bugging in like if she was my son mother and just recently she called the cops on me cause my baby father's missed his weekend and i wouldn't allow him to pick him up any more. What is the best thing to do im so tier of her getting involved if she has no business in this. we spoke but just make it worse we had an argument and i just cant get along with him or her . Need good advice pls.

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Cutemommy - posted on 04/20/2015

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Oh I see, I believe you could file for back child support for the times he missed. If he doesn't pay child support on time they can put a hold on his license and it also will be very negative on his credit. There is no excuse for him to have missed so much. Go to the court and have it adjusted. She was right for calling the cops especially if you were keeping his son from him, and any law enforcement and judge will tell you the same thing, even if you were morally justified to do it. It isn't fair for him to only pick his son up when he wants instead of when he is scheduled, make a calender and list the times he misses his dates and the days he gets your son so the courts can see exactly what is going on. Don't go in there just placing a lot blame, it starts to be just your word against his keep everything written down. It sounds like the communication is not going so well and the only thing that could help is a mediator, or a judge.

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Raye - posted on 04/20/2015

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I think the other ladies have said everything. You do have to let the child see his father. The boy is not a possession that you can keep to yourself. If the father missed his weekend, then he should still be able to see the boy on his next scheduled visitation.

Planning the visitation and making the major decisions should be between you and the boy's father. But if the father backs off to try to "keep the peace", I think it's good for the step-mom to get involved, because kids DO have a right to spend time with BOTH parents. The step-mom just seems to want what's fair for the child.

As far as child-support, you should take him back to court and see what they can do to get payments to you. You still can't withhold visitation because of it.

Haylin - posted on 04/18/2015

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The weekends that he didnt picked up my son just when ever he wanted to pick him up. i didn't think that was right. Why she had to called the cops on me i told her that i could've just had spoken to my ex about all this there was no reason to get to that level.

Cutemommy - posted on 04/18/2015

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It sounds like they love your son and they are fighting to see him, you should be happy. What exactly did you two argue about? What is she doing that is none of her business?

Haylin - posted on 04/18/2015

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Ok thanks.I do have custody and visitation of my son and i don't want his money i even though of taking him of child support but don't know if that would even be helpful with all this. I am married and he helps out a lot I'm thankful for that even though his not his child. So i don't know if that would be a good or bad thing to do to take him off. About his wife i will let her know that i don't have to speak to her in a polite way. Thank for your advice.

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