Haylin - posted on 04/18/2015 ( 10 moms have responded )
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Well first of i put child support on my baby father about 6 yrs ago and he started pay last yr @ july and stopped on January of this yr 2015. i haven't received anything ever since what can i do? Now his new wife is always bugging in like if she was my son mother and just recently she called the cops on me cause my baby father's missed his weekend and i wouldn't allow him to pick him up any more. What is the best thing to do im so tier of her getting involved if she has no business in this. we spoke but just make it worse we had an argument and i just cant get along with him or her . Need good advice pls.
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Cutemommy - posted on 04/20/2015
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Oh I see, I believe you could file for back child support for the times he missed. If he doesn't pay child support on time they can put a hold on his license and it also will be very negative on his credit. There is no excuse for him to have missed so much. Go to the court and have it adjusted. She was right for calling the cops especially if you were keeping his son from him, and any law enforcement and judge will tell you the same thing, even if you were morally justified to do it. It isn't fair for him to only pick his son up when he wants instead of when he is scheduled, make a calender and list the times he misses his dates and the days he gets your son so the courts can see exactly what is going on. Don't go in there just placing a lot blame, it starts to be just your word against his keep everything written down. It sounds like the communication is not going so well and the only thing that could help is a mediator, or a judge.
Ev - posted on 04/18/2015
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I think you need to do what the other ladies have mentioned to you. 1) He has visitation then if there are other court orders in place for custody and child support. 2) Child support and visitation are two different things and you can not withhold a child because dad does not pay what he needs to. Take it to court or child support enforcement and let them deal with how it is to become done. 3) If you want to go by the court orders 100% then that means he gets his weekends and holidays and summer visits and you get yours. In some states the rosters are just a suggested visitation roster and can be amended by the parents if they can get along. Mine even stated that if a parent missed a weekend that it could not be made up. What you need to both do is to call one another when a weekend might become a problem on visits for whatever reason and work something out. We sometimes switched weekends because of that so that the parents could have the time. I also sometimes took his weekends because of other issues that the children did not need to be around (his second wife and he had a nasty last two months or more and I had them from the end of November to January on weekends until it was all done and over with.) 4) The step mom has no rights in making the legal decisions about the child but she is the step mother. Not all step moms are religiously evil as a lot of people would tell you. Some of them do love our children with all their hearts and make them feel like they are their own. So what is the problem with her loving your child as much as if he was hers. Someday you might be glad she was there when you might not be able to be. I wished my kids had a step mom that loved them that much but they got two of them that did not really care about them. So if this woman is being a mom to your son, let her be. He is getting the best of both worlds.