my three year old will not take naps ? is this normal

User - posted on 09/28/2012 ( 10 moms have responded )




no matter how hard i try my son will not go to sleep which u know what that means i have a brat by 4 lol. he sometimes falls asleep at 6 and then up by 5 am . its horrible.... any ideas


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Amanda - posted on 09/29/2012




My son does not takes nap. He turned three today, but he has not taken naps since he was 16 or so months old!

Yolanda - posted on 09/29/2012




My son is now 3 1/2 and use to not nap until quiet time was introduced when he went to daycare for 8 weeks this summer and I just kept him on schedule. He now understands what quiet time means and has it right after lunch. He has to get in his bed and do quiet play. No tv. He can read a book or play with a few handheld toys. He ALWAYS goes to sleep. He's on a later schedule because his bedtime in 9 and he is up at 7:30 am. If not up by 8, I wake him up. If he does have quite time which some Saturdays and no Sundays, he is a booga bear by 6pm and then I'm fighting to keep him woke at least until 7:30 or 8. I'm in the process of backing his bedtime up 30 mins at a time because I want him in bed no later than 8:30. My dream time is 8 but we are so busy it works better for 8:30 for now.

Lady Heather - posted on 09/28/2012




Yeah, this is the transition to no naps. It sucks, but it doesn't last forever. With my daughter it was about a month of this she kind of needs a nap, kind of doesn't bs starting right when she turned three. It's been a few months and now it's all good. She stays cheery and happy and has a normal bed time no problem. Unless we do something crazy like go to the fair all day. ha.

Kimberly - posted on 09/28/2012




My daughter is almost three and has stopped daytime naps for about 6 months now even though she still does need them. She is up usually between 6-630 everyday and does have to have quiet time even if its just looking at a book or watching a dvd. She can get crankly in the afternoons but I usually try to get her playing outside or go for a walk to the park. We have our dinner and she is usually in bed between 630-7 at the latest otherwise I find she get too overtires and its just hell trying to get her to bed!! If by chance she does fall asleep late in the afternoon I dont let her sleep more then a hour at most cause it just makes it too had to get her to bed.

Elfrieda - posted on 09/28/2012




My son is almost 3, and he doesn't take a nap every day, BUT he has to stay in his bed with the room darkened "No floor, yes bed" for an hour every afternoon. I make sure to tell him that he doesn't have to sleep, but he can play with his bed toys (a bunch of stuffed rabbits, a wooden pig, a glow-in-the-dark snail, and a small car, for whatever reason are his preferred sleeping companions) or read the books that I have stacked on his bedside table. And if he gets tired, he can lie down on his pillow. Usually he will fall asleep, but even if he doesn't, the rest has done him (and me!) some good.

I think it's a mistake to change bedtime based on whether he had a nap or not. You've got to keep him up until bedtime! Go to the park or invite the grandparents over, something exciting to keep those eyelids open until 7:30 or whenever he's supposed to go to sleep. Same with waking him up in the morning, if my son isn't up by 8:30 (normal for him is 7:30), I'm going in to wake him up even if it was a really late night the day before. I read somewhere that if you don't keep the schedule steady the child suffers from jet lag all the time! I hate the feeling of jet lag, so I'm pretty consistent with my son so he doesn't feel like that.

Amy - posted on 09/28/2012




Both my kids stopped napping around 2, my daughter is now 2 1/2 and if she naps she's up till 11 at night. The first few weeks will be a bit of an adjustment but once you get him on a new schedule it will be fine.

Vicki - posted on 09/28/2012




I wouldnt let him go to sleep at 5, try to keep him bussy at that time. Even if he doesnt go to sleep i would put him in his bed anyway and tell him that he doesnt have to go to sleep but he does have to lay in his bed and rest. Maybe give him a book to read? My sister use to do this with her kids and they eventually knew that they wouldnt be getting outta rest time sometimes they feel asleep sometimes they didnt but sometimes a rest for at least an hour is just as good!

Tara - posted on 09/28/2012




Neither of my girls would take a nap from about 18-20 months onward. What I do is have them have a "quiet time" where they sit and play quietly or look at books, maybe 15-20 min tops, and that helps forestall a lot of the "brat" part. If they fall asleep before bedtime (a very rare occasion unless they are sick) I will usually wake them up and keep them awake until bedtime.

Katherine - posted on 09/28/2012




No naps! He's done. Mine was done at 2. If you let them nap at 5, they'll be up until 5am. Cut out the naps completely. Just my opinion.

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