
Jemma - posted on 08/22/2012 ( 10 moms have responded )
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i have been with my partner for about 8 months now but he has only just moved in bout 2 months ago. It has always been me and my son since he was born,my son gets along with my partner some of the time better when i'm not around but they clash my partner just tries to tslk to him ask him how is day was and my son won't talk to him just says no to him all the time when he tries to talk. my partner is getting over it and says if i don't do something it will cost us our relationship i am due with his first child soon i want them to get along dont' wanna have to choose.i just think my son is still getting use to things and things will get better when he can talk better but my partner says i'm always making up excuses for my son and he think my son just plays me all the time. not sure what to do or how to get my son noty to react the way he does towards my partner
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S. - posted on 08/23/2012
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So this guy comes into your Childs life mixes up his world and routines, takes time alone with his mummy away and is becomes his new daddy with a new brother or sister on the way. Then the boyfriend sulk's and acts like a baby when the two year old doesn't answer him in the mannor of which he would like! Well news flash for your boyfriend, apart from the fact he's two and that's what two year old's do, he's also had to deal with what sounds to me like a whole lot of changes. By the sounds of things you don't need to be changing the way your son is with your partner but how your partner is with your son!
Jodi - posted on 08/22/2012
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Let it cost you the relationship. Seriously, he issued you with an ultimatum? I'd say he isn't as invested in your relationship as you'd like to think. The child is 2 1/2. WTF does your partner expect? Sorry, it just makes me angry that he is so insensitive to the way a child thinks that HE issues YOU with an ultimatum.
Michelle - posted on 08/22/2012
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For starters, he's 2.5. He doesn't know how to react "properly". Like you have said, it's been just the 2 of you since he can remember and now there's someone else who is getting your attention instead of him.
It's only been a couple of months and I think your boyfriend is being a bit unreasonable. 2yo's are known for being moody and grumpy if things aren't going their way. It can also take them a while to get used to change.
Your son could also be reacting to the impending birth of another child. He's going to have to share you even more when the baby comes along. I say, give some time to adjust to everything that's happened in the last couple of months.
Dove - posted on 08/22/2012
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He's 2. He's going to be difficult and that is perfectly normal. If this man is willing to throw your relationship away over normal 2 year old behavior.... you don't want a relationship with him anyway. You don't want to have to choose? ANY man that would even put you in that place is a man you should run far, far away from.
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Your boyfriend is the one who has to put out the effort here. Your son is two. He is acting like a two year old. Your boyfriend needs to go out of his way to make your son feel loved and a part of this new family. I agree with the other poster that your boyfriend is acting unreasonable, expecting your son to act like a 10 year old. I have 5 kids. ALL OF THEM said NO! to me from ages 2-4. I think you and your boyfriend would benefit from family counseling so you could learn some tools to better make this transition.