My two year old son is biting, how do I get him to stop?

Heather - posted on 10/10/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )

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My two year old son started daycare for the first time back in January. Prior to that my husband stayed home with. My husband is finishing his degree so we had to put our son in daycare. At first we thought it would be great, he would get to play with other kids. Then he started biting, hitting and head butting myself, my husband and the other kids at daycare. He only says a handful of words, so we thought it was just out of frustration because he couldn't tell anyone what he needed or how he felt. There were screaming bouts also. He would just scream this LOUD intense scream like out of a horror movie. Sometimes for no reason at all, other times because he was mad or being told no. two weeks ago he was kicked out of daycare. We luckily found another daycare, today was his third day and he was written up for biting. He tried to bite his teacher twice and then actually bit another child. I'm at a loss. I don't know how to get him to stop or why he started doing this in the first place. I've tried holding his hands and getting down on his level, looking him in the eyes and telling him that its not nice to bite and that it hurts people. We've tried time out, but that just creates a meltdown. I dont' know what to do. I keep telling myself this is a phase and he'll grow out of it, but it seems like its more than that. I just don't know how to get him to understand. He has a 6 month old brother and luckily he never tries to bite him, he is actually very gentle and sweet to the baby. It's mainly at daycare and with us that these behaviors are seen. I NEED HELP!!!

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Heather - posted on 10/11/2012

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My husband has actually bite him back, not hard enough to draw blood or anything, but hard enough. My son just laughs and thinks its funny. He actually holds him arm out to my husband to bite him again. We are just scared he is going to get kicked out of this new daycare. The last daycare he was in made a comment that we should get a private nanny to watch him in our home, because he does so well with one on one interaction. If that was something we could afford, I would stay at home with him. It's just scary and frustrating at the same time. I mean, did I do something or NOT do something to create this behavior? I feel like the daycare people look at me like I'm a bad mother because of how he acts. And the SCREAMING. Omg...my son screams are worse than nails on a chalk board!!! We literally jump each time he does this. Its to the point my husband has actually said he doesn't like our son. He loves him, but he doesn't like having to be around him because of the screaming and mean behavior. It just breaks my heart when he says things like that. My son can be such a sweet loving child. He will just walk up and give us or his little brother kisses. He will reach out and touch our faces so gently, and then 10 seconds later he's screaming and headbutting one of us or throwing toys at us. His doctor ran an autism checklist on him at our last visit and said it wasn't that. Is it just the "terrible two's"? Is anyone else having these problems? to this extent? Ignoring him when he does these things doesn't help, it just makes him scream even more.

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