My unhappy two year old

Stacy - posted on 07/19/2016 ( 3 moms have responded )




Can anyone tell me why my two year old won't let people say hi or talk to her??? She won't respond to someone, other than me and her family, if they talk to her and will even yell and be snotty if they so much as say hi to her. It's so bratty and I am so embarrassed and ashamed that she treats people like that. I really need some help dealing with her .


Dove - posted on 07/20/2016




Are they pushing themselves on her (saying hi when she is clearly not receptive) and not respecting her personal space boundaries?

You can certainly tell her (in private... not during the incident) that it is not nice to yell at people who just want to say hi to her, but you can also tell the people trying to talk to her that she's not in the mood for conversation (hopefully you do this before she starts yelling).

Give her time and a lot of patience. She's pretty little still, but you can start role playing at home on how she should act if someone says hi to her and she doesn't want to talk (maybe a smile and a wave... which would be your cue to make sure the person approaching her backs off... in a polite manner).

Anyone w/ much experience w/ toddlers is not going to be offended by her behavior and will realize that she's still learning and is currently trying to 'protect' herself from an uncomfortable situation the best way she knows how. Yes, you do need to teach her a better method, but calmly and patiently and w/ respect to her personality and comfort zone.

Nadine - posted on 07/20/2016




My youngest was like that as a baby, very anti-social, and preferred to be home to out. He just did not like strangers. He grew out of it, to some degree, but he is still a bit anti-social. But then his father is too, lol. Some people are just not as social as others. I would try maybe play groups, or other ways to socialize her more if it really bothers you. But it may just be that she dislikes or feels insecure around strangers.

Maria - posted on 07/19/2016




even my son is like that he will smile but he doesnt talk so maybe i should wait see.sometimes its embarrasing bt atleat he says bye wen we leave.first try putting her to play with children and see how she responds and talks to them.


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