Emily - posted on 08/04/2014 ( 6 moms have responded )
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My sons dad has never payed me a penny, he he owes me 5 grand in child support, he owes me a mobile phone which he smashed and 40 pounds a month for the contract and the contracts been out 18 months, he does no child care well im at work and neither does any of his family. He would rather go out with his friends drinking or spend his money on his car, and opening admitted to me he would choose his friends and there children over his own, and has done on many occasions, he has people round him that he openly admits arnt good parents to there own children aswell, i want my money back but i dont want my sons dad in his life is there a way around this? And if i get him to sign a piece of paper signing his rights away to me will that be legally binding? Any help would be much appreciated i want him gone and i want to make a happy positive future for my son just the two of us.
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Jodi - posted on 08/05/2014
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If he isn't paying his child support, follow up. You can file to have this sorted out legally (how it is dealt with depends on where you live, but may include garnishing wages, garnishing bank accounts, etc).
With regard to the phone, unless you had a contract with him to pay for it AND pay for your contract, or unless you sue him and the court orders he pays, sorry, nothing you can do.
He and his family are not obligated to provide child care for you when you are working. This is akin to expecting him to fit around what works for you. His family is irrelevant, they have no part in this and their unwillingness to be your child care is perfectly reasonable. Sure, it would be nice if they helped out, but it's not an obligation and it is rather selfish of you to expect that it should be. You and your ex should have a visitation agreement for his time with the child, not a daycare agreement.
About you not wanting him in your son's life, that's not your choice. I guess the question is whether he wants to be in his son's life. Also, in many places, even if he signs his rights away, he is still legally obligated to pay child support.