need advice on my child saftey

Rebecca - posted on 01/04/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )




my daughter 4 years old see her dad every other weekend as there a court order me and her dad we been on and off for 9 years and we finally just broke it off a month ago as I found out he a drugy and been cheating on me a week after we break up he in another relationship I feel like my child is in danger he takes her round this strangers (girlfriend) house I don't no nothing about her what she like she could be a kidnapper for all I no my daughter doesn't even want to go round there but he forces her I feel so useless as there a court order in place I cant stop her from going or can I ?? please help im so scared for my child ??


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Ev - posted on 01/04/2014




Jodi is correct in her statement. You basically have no say in what he does on his time with the child. He can take her to see whomever he wishes. He can do what he wants to in the activities during his time he has her as long as it is not dangerous or harmful to her. You have to have something concrete for the judge to change a visitation order. THat means documentation he is a harm or danger to her, places her in such situations, neglects her, and other things. Without this, you can not stop him from doing what he is used to doing whether he has the child with him or not.

Jodi - posted on 01/04/2014




Unless your court orders specifically state that he can't do this, then you need to uphold the court ordered visitation or risk being fined for being in contempt (and potentially losing custody of your daughter).

You broke it off a month ago. You obviously felt that for the last 4 years your daughter was perfectly safe with her father. If you now think he is unsafe, you need evidence to take him back to court and amend the orders. And no, him taking her to other people's houses that you don't know is not reason enough to withhold visitation. Do you take your daughter to places where her father doesn't know the people?

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