Need advice please!

Aileen - posted on 06/23/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )




Hello Moms!

I have a question, more like advice that I am looking for...

I am a stay at home mom to two young boys and am looking to re-enter the workforce in this headache of an economy. I keep running into road blocks because I took time off...Three years ago I was pregnant with twin daughters that I found out to be triplets on the day that I was told they no longer thrived. I lost them at six months and had to give birth and bury them. I quit my job as a result because I was emotionally and psychologically not ready for anything. I already had a nursery and everything; a mental picture of my little girls with dark brown curls... As a result of losing them I stayed home and went back to finish my master's in criminology and eventually opened up a small online gourmet dessert line. I am looking to go back to work and I am running into a wall everywhere and am in need of some major advice.



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Aileen - posted on 06/23/2012




Hello Rebekah,

Thank you for replying and the advice. I have documented on my resume that I went to school for two out of the three years and worked as a consultant for business security for the other year. In the past year I have my business listed as well on my resume. I have been told that three years is too long away from the workforce and that any skills I had are no longer relevant because I took time off. I worked before quitting as a an assets protection executive. I might look at my resume again just to make sure it is really clear that I was not idle during that time. I tried to stay busy after I lost my babies to not focus on the loss because I was afraid if I did, I would not be able to care for my one year old at the time; I was afraid of how far the grief would go. I found studying for my master's was a way for me to focus on something other than the pain and eventually I would learn to live with their loss.

Thank you for your help, I very much appreciate it.

Aileen :)

Rebekah - posted on 06/23/2012




So very sorry to hear about your loss. Have you met those emotional needs? Grieving is a process, so it will take time, but I just wanted to be sure you had time to give to yourself and manage some of those feelings in these few years since it occurred. So you feel ready to tackle work...

You don't mention what road blocks you are running into. You were only out for 3 years--which in the grand scheme of things isn't that long, especially since you were incredibly busy either being mom, going back to school, or opening your own online business. I can't imagine a prospective employer would look at you as lazy or without skills because you were productive all during that time. Does your resume document how you spent your 3 years out of the workforce? If not, then it might be a red flag. I guess I'd suggest you make sure its clear to prospective employers about that time span and all the skills you developed during that time. Are you pursuing something in criminal justice? I don't know what positions you are qualified for, but can you do any networking through your former school colleagues or prior internships? Networking is huge.

The only other advice I have is to do a lot of online searching. Look at the websites of places you are interested in. or other job search engines can help you find things that aren't listed in the papers. Good luck! It is a rough economy, but be diligent.

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