Need Advice: Should I allow kids to keep gift from estranged family members?

Nicole - posted on 01/10/2014 ( no moms have responded yet )




The back story: Over the summer my family went on vacation, and I left my sister and her 2 daughters a key to my house to feed our cat. I gave my nieces (age 15 and 18) permission to swim in our inground pool, but made it clear to them that they were not to have any parties, and only thier 2 bffs (who i know) could accompany them. We came home to our house and pool completely trashed, about $2,000.00 worth of damage in all. They denied involvement, so, frightened that someone had broken in, we called the police. Long story short, between the police and social networking sites, we quickly found out that they treated my home as a frat party for a week. After all is said and done, we are not on speaking terms with my sister and her family, as her position is that they are kids and we are over reacting and should not have called the police. My children had to have counseling due to nightmares and fear that the violation of our home caused. We did not go to the family Christmas dinner to avoid being with them, as just the thought upset the kids. They sent my girls movie giftcards. I feel like we shouldnt keep them, and am unsure about the message i want to send my kids. Do i send them back, keep them , or maybe donate them to a women/childrens shelter? thoughts, please!!!

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