need advice...,Should my kids live with their dad?

Dorothy - posted on 11/19/2014 ( 1 mom has responded )




We have been separated for years, we have 2 boys and 1 girl. 14,11 &7. I recently went through some problems and we are living with my parents. Their dad isn't the greatest man and has done many things in the past to hurt me. But I know right now it is a stable environment for the children. I love them and want what is best for them. I am worried of what others would think.. and I don't want the children thinking that I am abandoning them.......


Raye - posted on 11/19/2014




Does their dad even want them to live with him?
Will you still schedule visitation with them after the move?
Don't worry what others may think. If you feel it's a better environment for the kids, then you should pursue it. Tell the kids that this is what the situation will be for a while, until you can get back on your feet. Make sure they know you love them.

It takes a strong person to put aside past hurts by your ex and admit that maybe, right now, his place might be the best place for the kids. I would make sure there is some kind of agreement about how long this will last, or at least set a date when you both will come together and see how things have gone and decide what course to take from that point. Keep in communication with the kids and your ex to make sure it's going well.

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