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Olivia - posted on 04/19/2016 ( 6 moms have responded )

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my baby dadddy is trying to take my son from me and saying that im unfit when i have token care of my so on my own for 2 years whe he knew he was the dad and never botherd to show up when he was born let alone offer to help take care of are son and now hes wanting to play daddy of the year. i have court this friday for custody. he lied to the court saying i was homless and the court granted him temp custody of my son wish is bull..... need help and cant afford a good lawyer he has one and i dont. its for shared parting and i dont want shared parting

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Dove - posted on 04/19/2016

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You can represent yourself in court. It's not easy, but it is doable. As long as you have evidence that contradicts all of his claims (like the residency) he shouldn't be able to prove you unfit. As for the rapes and threats... if you did not file police reports there is nothing you can do about that at this point. It really, really sucks and I'm sorry for what you went through... but that doesn't stop him from having a right to a relationship w/ his child.

If he continues to make threats or harm you... document it and file police reports against him to develop a paper trail.

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Olivia - posted on 04/19/2016

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He is 32 and I'm 24 live in the USA and I have looked for help but there isn't any around here in my county due to funding cuts

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 04/19/2016

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How old is this winning personality?

Regardless of that though...

Have you spoken with any attorneys at all? When hubs and I had issues with his ex, I called every attorney in town. I asked them all the same question: Will you take payments. Most said they would, and most were more than willing to set up an initial 1/2 hour consultation at no charge. You just have to put yourself out and ask. You'll find one that is willing to help.

Are you in the US? (not that it matters, really, but different countries have different ways of handling matters)

You still don't have the right to keep the child from his father, regardless of circumstances of your relationship, unless you have valid proof that the man would be a danger to the child. What you CAN do is request supervised (impartial 3rd party supervision) visits until the child is comfortable with his father. What you CAN do is request primary residential, physical and legal custody.

Olivia - posted on 04/19/2016

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He didn't want nothing to do with are son so I was primary and had full custody of him. I have proof of my residential address and work. But there is no legal aid here cause of funding cuts no I have to pay a lawyer some how. He lies. He raped me from when I was 15 turning 16 till I was 21. I was afraid of saying anything to anyone cause he's tried to kill me. But at this point it's a he said she said.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 04/19/2016

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You don't get a choice about shared parenting. You BOTH contributed to the creation of this child, and the CHILD deserves to have BOTH of his parents. PERIOD.

You need to get your ducks in a row. Have proof of residence and income. Have proof of you taking care of the child on your own (Doctor's records, etc) Look into legal aid, or sliding scale attorneys in your area. There are some in literally every city, county, township and parrish.

Seriously...You knew he was the father as well. Did you, at the time of birth, establish primary custody and paternity?

Olivia - posted on 04/19/2016

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dont know what else to do. hes been trying to bully me around and making threats

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