need help. at my wits end and out of options

Sara - posted on 01/21/2014 ( no moms have responded yet )




My stepson is a holy terror and i mean it. I have two stepsons and two of my own. I dont say he is a terror easily because i love all my kids. They are all disciplined the same and loved the same. There mom rarely sees them and only calls ups to 4 or 5 times a month shortly. For whatever reason though our 5 year old flat out wont do what you say. It could be picking up toys, or drawing a circle. If i say draw a circle, he will start then stop and draw a line or x instead and look proud of himself. We say sit in the corner for 5 minutes and he gets up, steals food, or hits the wall. He breaks toys, he throws yelling whinning fits if you tell him to go to his room and he just wont listen. I have tried time out, taking things away, reward systems, cookies, special time alone with him......nothing works. Our final resort is spanking which helps but i dont want to spank my kid every day. If you are going to say its abuse then dont bother answering because thats just plain dumb. A swat leaving no bruise or barely red is not abuse. I have spanked all my kids if it was bad enough. Worst incident recently was him waking up at 5 am, eating all of his sisters christmas candy and then stealing his dads car keys and trying to drive away. 5 years old and he did this. He would have driven off except he couldnt get it to go. So he came back in and told his brother he couldnt get the keys out and then his brother told us. We dont do drugs, alcohol, cursing, or smoking. We dont watch bad movies. I dont give them lots of sugar. We eat healthy, all get along great, homeschool (he wouldnt be good in public school) and no one else has issues. Any time we ask why he behaves like this he says he doesnt like rules and we make him mad because we dont let him do what he wants. He was trying to go to his moms because she lets him do whatever he wants. He can eat candy all day, watch r rated movies until midnight, and she bad talks us. Its rare they go there though. Like once every 2 to 3 months maybe. I dont know what to do anymore. I dont like getting so mad and having to yell all day because he is bad from the time he wakes until he goes to sleep. He isnt mistreated or left out. Anyone have any clue?

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