need help feel like im losing my family

Kim - posted on 08/19/2011 ( 1 mom has responded )




hello. I am a single mom. I have a 21 year old daughter and a 18 year old daughter. I am becoming worried about my 18 year. Please help. Her and i have always been so very close she would talk to me about anything and know that she could. However lately she is not wanting to go to collage and now and she doesnt even say one word to me. She will go to freinds house and that is when she is happy. i dont have any other family it is judt me and my girls .I dont want to lose that closeness. But it seems that i dont have a chioce right now. the more i try the more she pushes away and shuts down even more toward me. Please if you have any advice that i can do for myself to help me to stop tryen so hard and let her just be 18 . that would help. I do worry all the time about her not getting herslf out of this funk ,but i just dont know aht to do. please . I feel almost panicked inside. She was the child that had it all planned out for herslf. she was the one that got all A in school and took extra classes and was ALWASY trustworthy . I dont know how to take this from her .


Katherine - posted on 08/19/2011




Maybe she is not ready for college right now. It sounds like she was an overachiever. As far as going to friends houses, well that's how teenagers are.
Now that she is "free" to do what she wants I can certainly see it from her point of view.

Have you sat down and talked to her about this? Tell her how you feel. Don't accuse her, just say I feel really sad that you're not a part of my life anymore.
She is leaving the nest, it's something you will have to come to terms with.

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