Need help with child jealousy.

Brandi - posted on 06/19/2013 ( 9 moms have responded )

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Hi. I am 25 and have two daughters aged 7 and 6. Their fathers died in car wrecks one in 2005 and one in 2011. Well I am pregnant with a boy, he is due in Sept/Oct. Me and the father have been together for 2 years (I known him through school too) and he has a 7 year old son....I am worried about his son being jealous of the new baby....he isn't here yet, but he already gets jealous if I am sitting next to his father when we have him on our weekend....he will wedge between us or whine for his father to come play with him when we are trying to eat supper. Don't get me wrong, it doesn't bother me but he is gonna be 8 in Feb. He shouldn't be whining, throwing himself on the floor and crying or crossing his arms and ranting like he does when he doesn't get his way. My 6 year old hasn't done that since she was 2! So my worries are he will be jealous of the baby, not want the father to hold the baby, or even worse try to hurt my baby. Any advice??

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Brandi - posted on 06/25/2013

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he has a sister at his moms...idk...it's all confusing to me, my parents divorced, i had half siblings and never experienced the jealousy....kids are so different these days than when I was a child.....of course back then there wasn't pregnant 14 year olds either.... :/

Danielle Elizabeth - posted on 06/21/2013

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I've been with my husband for 6 years and my 7 year old step daughter is still jealous. She exhibits a lot of the same behavior your step son does. We have a 16 month old daughter whom my step daughter loves but is jealous of too. It's tough for her that we live together all the time and she had to go between two homes no matter how much time has passed. Try your best to make him feel part of the family and if he's only there part of the time then tell your hubby to spend some one on one time with him. Include him in things when the baby comes and have your husband talk with him how he will always love his kids equally. I know it's tough but remember its tougher for an 8 year old kid whom has no control over being tossed between two families, his patents not being together, and the addition of a new sibling who never has to leave their dad to go to moms house

Brandi - posted on 06/21/2013

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I will try to talk to him into talking to his son. And I know this because I have two kids, one which has some signs of Autism and she tells me through her expressions if she's not happy and wants to go back to her regular routine....but my kids are happy and content so I definitely don't want a 7 year old boy to dictate my life n decide if I should or shouldn't be with his father because me and my fiance are great together if we have disagreements he is the only man I been with that will actually talk to me, not at me, and not fight....so I'm here to stay no matter what.

Brandi - posted on 06/20/2013

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and not to mention it's not like me and his father Just now got together, we've been together for 2 years, so I don't really seeing me as new anymore.

Brandi - posted on 06/20/2013

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I have tried talking to the kid, showing him ultrasound pics, he isn't interested...

Brandi - posted on 06/20/2013

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I don't think that's it, because his father was in a relationship before and he said he never done it to his ex. and he has a baby sister at his moms house so i don't think the new baby is bothering him either. I am not just focused on the baby because my almost 8 year old has Cerebral Palsy, so I am a lot focused on her too....he does have his time with his dad just them so that can't be it either. He will also play well with my 6 year old daughter...

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