Need help with child who cries himself into sickness

Ashley - posted on 01/18/2011 ( 2 moms have responded )




My son is almost 22 months old and he will not sleep in his own bed and consistantly wakes up throughout the night still. I have tried ther "cry it out" method but he cries until he makes himself sick. The crying part doesn't bother me; it hurts but I can sit through it. This isn't a new thing he is just starting. He has been doing it for a long time. I am not one to give in in these situations but when I have to change the sheets and give him a bath afterwards every time, I have just gotten tired of doing it. So now we just let him sleep with us. Any ideas on how to get him to sleep without the mess would be appreciated!


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Louise - posted on 01/18/2011




Wow you have got a strong minded child on your hands here. The crying until he is sick is a learnt responce and this is his reply to the cry out method. Very affective! At 22 months he is just about old enough to understand right from wrong so you need to get down on his level and tell him that this is his room and his bed where he sleeps. make his room as bright and fun as you can. Decorate with his favourite tv charactors and then buy him a toy that you know he would love to take to bed ideally a soft teddy. When you put him to bed give him the teddy and tell him that teddy is going to look after him until the morning so he wont need to cry for mummy any more. Make a big fuss of the teddy being big and brave and put him to bed. When he starts to cry go back in and say heres teddy to look after you nite nite and leave the room. Keep making a fuss of the teddy and encourage your son to cuddle it. This is not going to be an instant fix but whatever you do, do not put your son into your bed. It is such a hard habit to break and when he is 6 and still there you will know you made the wrong decision. Keep your sons ego boosted with what a big boy he is to sleep in his own bed routine and win back control.
My daughter does the crying until she is sick routine if she is digging her heels in and wont help to tidy up or wants something her own way. I quite firmly tell her off and sit her on the bottom step away from everyone and she soon calms down. This has happened twice and the best way to deal with it is to remove her from everyone as there is no point in having a paddy if you have no audience. Good luck it is a battle of the wills and you need to regain control.

Tracy - posted on 01/18/2011




I am positive there is no easy answer for this one Ash...but I am wondering about beditme routine. I know for us, when we did bath at 7, brush teeth, read a couple books (and recently started saying prayers) things went smoother. And we have found that as long as he is in bed before 8, he goes down a little easier. The transition from crib to bed was hard...He wanted to hold our hand for the longest time. So, William put the little guy in bed and started laying on the floor next to him. It seemed to work, although not so much when I try to do it. He just goes down better for William. That's probably not much help, but routine and William putting him to bed seemed to help us.

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