Need some advice on adding another child?

Lindsey - posted on 10/15/2011 ( 4 moms have responded )




Okay her is our situation, I am 27 and my husband is 31. We have two wonderful daughters 6 and 3 but I want another child. My husband not so much he looks at it as another expense but I can't explain to him my need and the incompleteness that I feel. To complicate things we are both in school he has 2-3 years and I have 1-2 years left. I think that right now would be a good time because I would still be home majority of the time and don't want to start my career just to stop it for maternity leave. I also don't want them to far apart. I have gotten the advise to just go for it because if you wait for the right time it will never happen but I don't know. My mother in law tells me I just need to give up on it and be thankful for the two healthy children that I have. Is it wrong for me to want to have another one?


Katherine - posted on 10/15/2011




It's not wrong at all. The thing is, is that you both have to agree on wanting another child.

You can explain how important it is to your husband, but he may not agree.

Also going through school and having 3 kids is going to be a lot of work. Remember how much work a newborn is?

You guys are both still young. You can stand to wait a few years. My kids are the same age as yours, but I'm 36. Sometimes I want another too. But my risks are much higher than yours.

You are only 27, you have time.


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It's not wrong to want another child, but it is wrong to 'go ahead w/ it' if your husband is not in agreement.

At 27 you still have plenty of time. Good luck!

Whitney - posted on 10/15/2011




I felt the same way when I was thinking of having a 3rd child. My other children were almost 8 and 5 at the time. My husband kinda reacted the same way. Well I ended up getting pregnant with TWINS!! I was so scared and nervous about how I was going to care for 4 kids with my husband working out of town. Now the boys are 9 1/2 months old and I couldn't imaging life without them. You are right in the fact that you can't explain the feeling of wanting another one and if you try and wait for the "right" time you'll never have one. Just follow your heart and go for it!!!

Brianna - posted on 10/15/2011




there is nothin wrong with you what ur feeling is normal. dont listen to ur motherinlaw this is a decision for u and hubby to make. i no a lady whos kids are all grown now and she stil to this day regrets not having another baby (her hubby just went and got "snipped" without asking her one day) she still says she feels incomplete. i think u just gotta keep trying to talk to ur hubby about it

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