Need some son advice it's getting difficult

Gweezyd - posted 4 days ago ( 4 moms have responded )

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Hi I'm Lynn A I'm 37 white and mex single mother of 2 my son is 14 and my daughters 17 we're a regular family for the most part id say lately things have been getting "rough" and "crazy" I had noticed that my dirty clothes hamper would always be torn up like someone went thru it but I thought it was my daughter going thru clothes for laundry or something of that sort...until one night I woke up to use the bathroom and opened the door and my son was standing there with one of my thongs on his face and 3 or 4 laid on the counter top all dirty flipped inside out he absolutely panicked dropped to the floor and started crying I didn't know what to do I shut the door and went back to my room the next morning he bolted out of the house without a word a few weeks went by and I had kept noticing my dirty thongs missing or being misplaced I just tried not to think about it then about a week ago my daughter asked to talk to me we had a long conversation very real and in depth..she told me that her brother had been licking and sucking on her feet for about 5 years now and she can't take it anymore she said he would put my dirty thongs on her face or next to her face while she was pretending to be asleep and he would "enjoy" himself to her toes and to her smelling my dirty pantys I absolutely freaked and was going to call the cops but I don't know what to do he should be back from camping this weekend and I'm so just lost on what to do has anyone had any type of experiences like this please I need help do I call the cops do I just let him do what he's doing I don't want him to hurt himself for being embarrassed I'm just at a loss and need some help thanks so much Lynn

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Kelly - posted 4 days ago

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Definitely not a police matter.Your daughter doesn't need to put up with it, if she is over it. I think all three of you need to see a therapist as a family, hopefully to support your son and brother to deal with these impulses in a healthier manner. Toes and panties aren't the end of the world, but your daughter doesn't need to participate.

Michelle - posted 4 days ago

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It's not something to call the police about but you do need to talk to him.
You need to let him know that it's not acceptable for him to be doing that to his sister. She can also say no to him.
Just ignoring it won't make it stop. I would also suggest getting him into counseling to help him control his urges.

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Kelly - posted 4 days ago

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Sweetie, please don't overreact. It's dirty panties. There are so many other worse things you could be dealing with. You could let him know you understand, that his impulses are normal, and that there are ways to express them in a more appropriate manner. He's only 14 and he's still trying to find his way. There are professionals that can help.

Gweezyd - posted 4 days ago

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We're looking into counseling I just haven't mentioned it to him and I don't want to drive him to do something bad to himself or others I'm just very scared and don't wanna lose him I talked to my sister (his aunt) last night and broke down and told her and she revealed some stuff she caught him doing but didnt say anything because he's very up and down with his emotions he doesn't know she knows but her and her husband have cameras all through there home and luckily she checked them before he did I just very lost idk y he likes dirty pantys so much or toes it's just raking a toll on me

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