Neighbor mom a bully?

Ellen - posted on 10/19/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )




I feel like my 6 yr old daughter is being bullied by a neighbor mom. If my daughter tries to invite her daughter to play, or goes outside to play with her, the neighbor mom tells my daughter they are busy or asks her child to come inside. There are many other examples when my daughter was excluded or when her mom tells my daughter no. It would seem normal except this family is very social in our neighborhood with other people. She simply won't let my daughter play with her daughter. I feel like she's purposefully excluding her and I have no idea why. I'd like to ask her, but I'm afraid the conversation will go badly and make things worse.

Any suggestions on how to handle this? These neighbors live right across the street from us and wave and are always friendly in passing. It's very mean and high school feeling to me.


Ariana - posted on 10/19/2012




Is this mother being mean about it when she does it? It could be possible that she really is busy for some reason and you are getting her at the wrong times.

If you are sure that is not the case I would talk to her. For all you know maybe your daughter has done something to her daughter, with you unawares, and since then the mom is trying to keep her daughter away.

I would talk to her, there may be a legitimate reason that you don't know about. If that doesn't seem to work why don't you ask the mom over for a playdate, leave the time open and say you're free whichever days that week. It could be a misunderstanding.

If you still get a weird vibe off her, or she seems to avoid coming over, I would just ask her. Is something going on? My daughter likes to play with your child but you always seem to be busy or telling her to go inside?

You'll never know if you don't ask, you never know what's actually going on.


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America3437 - posted on 10/19/2012




I would go and ask her point blank! I would let her know my daughter is upset and you would like to know what to tell her every time she comes home crying because you won't let your child play with mine so what up chic.....

Ellen - posted on 10/19/2012




Thanks. I had been planning to talk to her, but inviting them both over for a play date makes sense. I do wonder if something happened, so I guess it's time to find out.

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