New here... Daughter wants to meet biological father

Kristen - posted on 08/28/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I am new here... I didn't know which community to join as none of them touched on this topic. I have a 12, almost 13 yr old daughter who wants to meet her biological father. I got pregnant with her when i was 18. He has never really (was for 1 week until i stopped it) been in her life due to drug use and prison. He says he does not do any of that anymore and wants to meet her too. She now has a half brother that is about 6/7 months old. My husband wants to adopt my daughter as he loves her like his own. He is crushed. I want her to meet him because she has a lot of questions (as she should) but i have so much built up anger and sadness. I know it's the right thing to do. i just really need to talk to someone about this because obviously i cannot really talk to my husband without making him even more upset.... Any advise? Anyone else going through this?

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Kristen - posted on 08/28/2013

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Thanks Evelyn. I just talked to my husband again about the situation. He is supportive, his feelings are just hurt. He agrees that she needs to meet him. Just a sad situation so I don't like to talk about it with him. He doesn't say anything negative at all to her about all of this.

She will meet him. I am just so nervous. This may sound stupid but I just feel like... This sucks! I don't know how else to sum it up. Ya know, there are no guarantees. I can't promise my daughter that he is going to right by her. I can't promise that she will have a continuous relationship with him. I can't promise her anything. I hope and I pray that he is everything she wants him to be. That no matter the outcome her heart won't hurt. I'm scared that I am going to have to pick up the pieces of her broken heart just the idea of that, hurts so deeply!

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