Not a good sleeper, routine isn't helping!

Hope - posted on 04/23/2016 ( 2 moms have responded )




My daughter is just under 12 weeks old and is a horrible sleeper. I've been reading "Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child" and have done hours of internet browsing to try and come up with a good routine and schedule for her and nothing seems to help. She was sleeping from about 9-7:30 every night (with a couple of 5 minute nursing sessions), but suddenly started waking up at 4 and squirming/grunting for an hour every morning. Now she's waking up at 5 and refusing to go back to sleep.

She isn't a good napper and doesn't nap well even when I soothe her and put her down when she starts showing sleepy cues. She might eventually nap for 30 minutes to an hour, but not always and never longer than that. I've read that this can be because she's overtired, so I've been trying to make her nap every 1-1.5 hours and it just doesn't work. I've also tried for the past three nights to move her up to an earlier bedtime (around 7) and she'll sleep for half an hour and then wake and be inconsolable until after 9. I would honestly just work with this, but with her waking at 5 it means she's only getting 8 hours of sleep a night. Everything I read tells me this just isn't enough, especially if her naps aren't bringing her to a total of 15 hours.

I'm at my wits end and don't know what to do. Overall she's a happy and healthy baby. She does get fussy when she's tired, but it's a catch 22 since she won't sleep no matter how careful I am and no matter how much routine and schedule I try to add. We make sure the room is dark, she's been fed, she's got a clean diaper, and she has a white noise machine. She HATES to be swaddled. Not sure what else I can do?? Help!


View replies by

Sarah - posted on 04/23/2016




Make sure you are catching her earliest sleep cues; tug ears, rub eyes, yawning and jump on it and try to get her down. The more she does sleep the more she will sleep. She may be growing, teething or going thru a phase that will settle back down shortly into a nice pattern of 10-12 hours at night and three naps during the day.
My son had a peculiar sleep cue; he'd start making a sound like "buh, buh,buh" I ignored it at first be them realized that he was just starting to tire when he made this sound. Once I caught on to that he slept loads more. Good Luck

Dove - posted on 04/23/2016




If she's happy and healthy... she's likely fine. Some kids fall easily into a routine. Others do not. All of my kids nursed to sleep, so if that doesn't work... I don't know what does. ;) My son was a cat napper. I honestly don't think he napped for a stretch longer than 45 minutes until he was down to one nap/day. And then he'd nap as short as 5 minutes or as long as 3.5 hours!

Join Circle of Moms

Sign up for Circle of Moms and be a part of this community! Membership is just one click away.

Join Circle of Moms