Not invited to church friends wedding

Amandastone27877 - posted on 06/14/2015 ( 5 moms have responded )




 am so upset, this friend from church is having a wedding and
they have deleted me from Facebook and they only way I found out she was engaged was by a mutual friend. So I am pretty sure I wont be invited to the wedding even though this is someone I have known for years from church. And I just want to know why I wasn’t invited, and I suspect it may be because of a falling out I had with her sister where she yelled at me for wanting to crash this other mutual friends wedding a few years ago. Would it be rude to just ask why I wasn’t invited and make sure it wasn’t because of this and she hates me? When she deleted me and I asked why ( this was after the thing with the wedding happened) she said everything was fine and she was only keeping people she talks to regularly. I just want to make sure I wasn’t not invited because of her sister being upset about me wanting to crash this other person s wedding. Her sister and the former bride are trying to ruin my life and turn everyone I know against me and make sure everyone I know knows about how i wanted to crash that wedding years ago.


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Gena - posted on 06/15/2015




Well maybe you should just talk to her and ask her why you are not invited. If it was me I really wouldn't be bothered about not being invited. I am glad when I am not invited to go to weddings.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 06/15/2015




I have a co-worker that is getting married in a couple of months. We are work friends, and I have no expectations of being invited. In fact, she mentioned that someone else at work keeps making her feel like she needs to invite this person. My response? Invite who you want at your wedding. Each person you invite costs more money. I also told her that she should not feel obligated to invite anyone from work, and that I personally have no expectations of an invitation. She thanked me. She is worried that she is going to hurt feelings.

Weddings are not cheap. People mostly wish they could invite everyone that they know. If they are having it catered, it could be 25$ per head and UP! Some caterers that I was looking into for my own wedding was 45$ per head. That is a LOT! THat doesn't include venue fees, dresses, tuxedo's. flowers, cake, photographer and so much more.

Don't be a wedding crasher. As you can see, that is how you lose friends.

Dove - posted on 06/14/2015




If she wants to invite you to her wedding... she will. If she doesn't... she won't. Just knowing her for years from church does not mean she is obligated to invite you to her wedding. Her wedding, her business... It does seem rather rude to ask her whether or not you are invited to her wedding. Crashing weddings is pretty immature, so if that IS her reason... it's justifiable enough in my eyes.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 06/14/2015




Well, I'd have to say that first, if you weren't invited to a wedding it is extremely poor form to crash. Second, if you haven't been invited to this wedding, it is crass to accost the bride to find out why.
Church friends are not always the same as other friends. Yes, there's a connection through church, but that connection may not extend to a more personal level, and lets face it, a marriage is pretty personal. Most people only want close friends and family.
It is not about whether or not your feelings are hurt, it's about that bride and groom having the day and experience that THEY want.
I know this is harsh, but face it. You weren't on the short list for the invites. Unless this person is your biological family, it is presumptuous and rude to intrude on what they've very obviously indicated is a private affair.

Ev - posted on 06/14/2015




I think there is more here than is being said. How do you know this person is not just weeding out her facebook friends to those she does keep up with on a regular basis? maybe she does not have the time to keep up with the rest of the world around her. As for the sis and the bride...that should be a whole other case. I am not sure what you are asking here.

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