Ok so what do you do when you find your son playing with matches?


Patti - posted on 06/26/2011




I would make it a science experiment with some consequences that allow the child to see what happens when mis-used and use a stop watch. Once done then I would take the child to the fire station, where they can really show the consequences of what happens when fire gets out of control. Those folks are remarkable teachers, and are trained in teaching the ins and outs of what fire can do. Hearing it from a trusted expert holds a ton of weight rather than from a parent who looks worried and concerned over something that appears harmless to the child. Besides, you will make their day with some really great guys/gals who care to keep our neighborhoods safe.

√v^√v^√♥ - posted on 06/19/2011




Yeah....... even at 13 we ran around a barren desert and lit bushes on fire in high winds.......... brilliant teens huh? I think they need to explore and stuff but you need to teach them what is dangerous and that they shouldn't be touching those things at 10. If they want to explore, ask you and find a few science projects that have to do wit hfire to teach about heat and stuff?


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Katherine - posted on 06/26/2011




I would remove all matches from the house as suggested. That is extremely dangerous. Explain why it's unacceptable and why you don't want him doing it.

When I was 12 my friend and I used to spray hairspray on the wooden floor and light it with a match. Brilliant huh? You DON'T want that.

Lucy - posted on 06/22/2011




At 10, I'd say let him do it, but lay down some ground rules. As kids we were allowed to light fires only in one particular sandy spot in our garden, and never when home alone, and this satisfied the need for it! Boys especially love to do things like building fires and burning things, so personally I'd rather I knew they were doing it in a safe and controlled way than suspect they may be doing it anyway in a way that may have unfortunate consequenses.

Dorota - posted on 06/19/2011




I remember playing with matches at that age. Talk to him about it? maybe he just wanted to see how they work, and thought they were cool? I thought they were cool, not like I grew up to be a pyro or anything.

Shannintipton - posted on 06/19/2011




Start by removing all matches and lighters and get insurance. Sorry I don't mean to sound flip but yikes. Good luck.

√v^√v^√♥ - posted on 06/19/2011




How was he playing with matches?

At 10 that gets hard. I remember being 10, you felt like you were so adult. Yet they are so young to us.

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